A MAN....A LION, NOT A CAT.

Built with the strongest of all ever known and ever striving to be relevant and in-charge, a man is not like every other usual creature in the fields but was made tall,strong, absorbent and to be in control. A man was built raw,strong and tick from the scratch in the image of the supreme being to be the protector of the realm.
A man is that person that takes charge, that person that protects, provides and promotes, who stays and doesn't run away from his home in times of turmoil or disappears from his responsibilities. A man assimilates, tolerates and even accommodates the most unusual characters and faces the fiercest battles without thinking of the risks involved which may include his life.

A man is that ever flowing fountain of wisdom that says little but does much when is time for action. He is that physical figure that walks hand in hand with the metaphysical forces of knowledge as he is expected to be a mentor and a tutor to transit the knowledge to people around him and many generations to come.  A man that knows nothing always have nothing to offer. A man not only flow with wisdom but radiates with graceful understanding and is the only being with an understanding of time.  He knows that there is time for everything and is not fooling around with things that doesn't count, matter or add value to his in passing life.

A man is that expert with the ability of hiding emotions but will cry helplessly inside, with the special gift of claiming not to care, but deep down he does. He is that Boy that wants a toy gun not a barbie doll but when he is wiser, he wants a real woman and not a toy gun anymore. He gives love to his wife with all he is and is her Romeo all way round. He fights for his love, radiates when he has sex before breakfast then frowns when he is hungry. He can be a soldier,a doctor or into any profession but does not raise his hands on his woman.
Real men know its not about fathering a child but being a daddy and stays up to nurse his kids. He does not think shallow but meditates on every content before making conclusions.

A real man knows that he came from somewhere and stays connected to his source. He doesn't shy away from his roles and duties like the cat but embraces it like a Lion and with fate, faith and honor knowing he is not alone. A lion defends, provides and protects his own and people around him with pride and confidence. A man is one person you can trust but not all men can be termed ''A MAN'',
but in due season every man  should stand up and be a man as A MAN IS A LION,not a cat.....

A WOMAN...MORE PRECIOUS THAN GOLD.

Created with the finest of materials and embedded with the greatest of Grace; a woman is not just a product made from an ordinary source but was selected, purified, blessed and chosen by the most high God.

A woman was separated, highlighted, dedicated and consecrated to God not because of her beauty but because of her worth, because she is special. Every home, society, sector, fraction, fashion or session begins with a woman. Every soldier, leader, ruler, king, mayor, emperor and even slaves was born by a woman. Being born by a woman is a mark that makes every human being equal and unquestionably the same as long as you are not an alien. A woman cries, weeps, bleeds, smiles, laughs and enjoys every moment of her life. Through the storms, rain and all turmoil of life, a real woman holds on firm.

Like Gold, a woman is born crude and refined. With her future untold and unknown, she moves into the society with only God on her side, she gets to discover her talents and potentials then explores them gradually. She walks through the walls of life trying to make a difference and moves ahead of all the heartbreaks, aches, abuse and all disappointments. Then she goes through the fire and refines into the most beautiful priceless jewel. She is durable, reliable, pure, attractive, inspiring, motivating, captivating and graceful. The words of a woman, soothes and heals all wounds, her smiles gives hope and her touch brings life to every death situation.

When is time for her to love, she loves with all in her; she has no choice. She walks down the aisle with faith ever ready to embrace all that faith brings. She is ever ready to be a supportive and wonderful wife. She is kind to new family, devoted to her husband and sacrificing to her children. Her wisdom cannot be measured but can only be treasured.

A woman is that person that lights up our world, she embraces us with love and peace, turns that sad moment into a celebration. Every man here has a wife, a sister, an aunt, a mother, a daughter or a friend therefore every man is blessed with a woman. If you are a woman here and you don’t have these qualities please check it and retrace your steps, a woman is meant to be a blessing not a curse. If you are blessed here and I am talking about you today, wave your hands into the air.

A woman is a precious being. She is not silver; 
she is not diamond, platinum, sapphire, onyx or Gold. 
She is worth more than every precious stone known to exist. 
She is more precious than GOLD.

DAD MEANS A TRUE KING

From mum's nauseous mornings,
To those her unusual cravings.
From the sleepless nights of fever,
To the rainy show of contractions.
Dad remained my First love and Hero,
Dad has never changed.

From those nights i cried in my cradle,
To the beautiful mornings i smiled at him.
From those moments i shared his meals,
To my early years i got extra sweets.
Dad : Is not a title for every father,
Dad : A title for a true King and Hero.

From the school days to and fro,
Bouncing appointments just to pick me up.
From the teen crazy days i felt i was right,
Trying everything new because i didn't know right,
Dad counselled and reprimand me in love,
Dad had answers to all my questions and fears.












From the beautiful day i walk down the aisle,
To that faithful day my own child i hold.
From the books and memories we shared,
To the very day i look into your old face.
Dad's words will still shape my world,
Dad's footprints can never fade away.


To My Dad; the one man whose words of wisdom and encouragement made
me the Ideal woman i am today and to all the Great Dads all over the world.
''Hoping you all reap what you sowed in the life of your
children and that your labor shall never be in vain''
I Salute and Hail you all !!!

HAPPY FATHERS' DAY!

IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU

DO YOU KNOW THAT;

• YOU ARE SPECIAL.

• YOU CAN NEVER BE SOMEONE ELSE.

• YOU WERE BORN FOR A SEASON.

• YOU CAME FOR MANY REASONS.

• YOU ARE YOUR ONLY TYPE IN STOCK.

• YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE UNTIL YOU DECIDE TO.

• YOU HAVE A PURPOSE.

• YOU HAVE A MISSION.

• YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

• YOU CAN CHANGE A LIFE.

• YOU WERE NOT BORN BY ACCIDENT.

• YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU CHOOSE TO BE.

MOST IMPORTANTLY THERE CAN NEVER BE ANOTHER YOU.....

MAN....BEFORE YOU MARRY

A man is the most important part of marriage because he is the one that actually starts the process but the woman is as important as a man in the walls of marriage,but before you
marry;

1) YOU NEED TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE:
A man without a purpose is a man without a future,so you must be able to discover your purpose as a man. Now, as a man, what do you want to do or be in life. where are you going because if you don't know where you are going, every road you find yourself will definitely still lead you to no where. Be it a dream, a driving force a skill you need to learn or possibly a lesson well learnt,we all have a purpose on earth.
As a man, you must have a vision or else you have no hope. You must discover your purpose and pursue it with all the courage and might that dwells in you. If you have no Purpose then you cant protect a family as you may not be able to take care of one even if you are given one. You have a purpose, GO find it.

2) YOU DEFINITELY NEED A JOB:
A job is something i define as a platform that provides you a source of income while you fulfill your life purpose. A job creates an avenue for a man to have a genuine source of income and become a more responsible. yes the job could be a trade, a business, a skill or white collar job.A job gets you busy and focused and also tends to increase the respect you can get from women generally. these days education is not enough,a skill is an added advantage and actually needs to be considered. business skills inclusive. As a man you need to move with the world,get computer literate,familiarize with technology and move forward.

3) YOU MUST HAVE UNDERSTOOD WHAT IS IMPORTANT IN LIFE AND WHAT IS NOT:
Yes....i know this very point will raise controversy but the truth be told. Fidus fiddled while Rome burnt. A lot of young men out there are yet to understand the difference between Big Brother Africa and CNN, a book and a porn magazine,a seminar and a night club. Remember you are not getting any younger and you definitely need to start doing things right. Drop all those habits that has never fetched you something.learn some house chores too,it wont kill you to cook,clean and be prepared to assist the woman God will bless you with,both in the home,kitchen, bedroom and all the way round.Just become more home oriented.Put away childish things and prepare yourself to be a husband not a frog tasting waters.One bad effect of keeping many relationships is that you will always end up comparing and wondering which of the ladies is better and you will always find reasons to change your menu because you are unstable,so take a bold step. You are a lion not a cat.

4) YOU NEED A MENTOR NOT A GODFATHER:
This is not a political ground so you need more of a mentor than a godfather. A mentor is a person whose mistakes serves as your stepping stone for you to act better and produce a better result in your marriage but a god father is someone who lacks the ability to understand the difference between a servant and a friend and that is not what you need in your life. A mentor must not be your Pastor but a man whose marriage has gone through thick and thin but was not shaken,a happily married responsible man whose disposition is applauding.A mentor is a reader and a leader who encourages and admonishes when you do things wrong.
A snake begets a snake and same with a Lion,so what are you? A Snake or A Lion!

Just before you think i have forgotten,your relationship with God is very important since you will be leading a home and as such you need all the wisdom you can lay your hands on. If you think the journey will be easy then you may encounter the amputation of divorce and your life may never remain the same. Who prepares a war without been equipped so you need to Pray,meditate,Listen to God,acquire wisdom,read books,attend seminars,training's and also invest your money wisely.What you see is what you get and who you are will attract the partner you deserve.
Remember,The man you are today designs the children you raise tomorrow.

TIPS TO LOVING YOUR CHILD

1) TELL THEM ''I LOVE YOU''.
This doesn't just make your child feel special but also has a very special way of boosting their self esteem and enables the child to develop more trust and confidence in you as a parent. It also help remove any trace of ill feelings whenever you make a decision concerning them or maybe reprimand them for doing something wrong. Telling them you love them also encourages them to love their siblings,friends and everyone in general even you as mum or dad.

2) DO NOT DISPLAY DIRTY HABITS OR DISPOSITION TO YOUR CHILDREN.
These young minds learn faster than you think and i bet you they are bound to pick some up,if not all but some.you must drop all those bad habits before you become a parent as you need to bring up a responsible individual for the society.children don't pick these habits because they are weak but because they barely know what is wrong and what is right.teach them values and morals then let them know what counts and what doesn't.

3) REPRIMAND YOUR CHILD.
Whenever they break a rule,misbehave or do things wrong,please reprimand that child.This may just be a simple punishment.you also have to beat them sometimes but you don't have to hit anything on them.words can also be very nice and works like magic in the lives of young people. WORDS contain ROD so don't spare the rod and spoil the child. however its very important you let them know why they are been reprimanded so they don't repeat the same act. Make your corrections with love.

4) SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.
You must never be too busy for your child so always make out time to spend some quality time with them both at home and outdoor.This makes it possible for them to trust you and ask you some questions they may never get the right answers to,from anywhere else. They may probably share their experiences in school and with their peers while you listen and maybe counsel. Now as a parent you can get to discover their fears and encourage them as their hero.A parent,truly parents a child.

5)WATCH WHAT THEY WATCH.
Do not let your children grow up on just the television,cartoons are good i agree but try mixing that with quality educating books that will burst their faculty. As not all cartoons are good for them anyway and also check what they do in school as well by maybe visiting their teacher to find out if and where your child needs help.. though computers are great too but all those should never take the place of books.If they can stay late night to watch a movie then they can as well stay late night during the weekends reading a book as well.

6) DO NOT TEACH THEM VIOLENCE OR TO FIGHT.
Telling your child that fighting is the only way out of a misunderstanding is very wrong. You can raise a humble lion if you train them the right way and don't forget the pen is mightier than the sword.
Fighting means lack of training and self control which means as an adult this child may grow up to fight in the office or in the president's office.. Teach your children love,patience,respect,self control peace and tolerance.

7) COMMIT THEM TO GOD.
This is not just about praying for them but more like praying with them. Teach them about God,make them understand that without God there is no man. Let them understand that everything they have belongs to God as well, so don't teach them not to give or help people.Love and respect your spouse and you all should pray together. Teach them to fast,to pray,not to lie but stay focused. This builds that child to be a more productive person. Remember, a child that walks with God,never walks alone.


We were all boys and girls before we ever became men and women,so there is a child in everyone of us out there,Parenthood is a beautiful thing and Its not about saying am not a parent yet,the first step to being a good parent is getting married to a good spouse that will bring out the best in you and the children. Lets help raise all the children around us as every child should is your responsibility.
ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY FOR OUR CHILDREN. WISHING YOU A HAPPY CHILDREN'S DAY.

WHEN THERE IS AN STD

Sexual Transmitted Disease is a slug that eats up at least 5 in every 10 sexually active young person in Nigeria and that is why there are lots of national,state,local government and non governmental programs going on in the country in order to protect and preserve the lives and future every young person in Nigeria.

Sexual Transmitted Diseases are those disease infection that are transferred from one person to another during vaginal,oral or anal sexual intercourse. It could be viral,bacterial,fungal, protozoa or parasitic.of course we are all familiar with HIV,syphilis,herpes simplex,human papillomavirus,pubic lice,

gonorrhea,candidasis,chancroid,chlamydia,viral hepatitis etc. Now note that some can be permanently cured while the viral ones which includes HIV, viral hepatitis, HPV, herpes can only be managed and controlled. Infections have signs and different symptoms but visiting your doctor at least twice a year will save you a lot of stress. Its no longer new these infections can be transmitted through unprotected sexual intercourse,by blood, saliva or breast milk, but when things go bad,what are the basic things you need to do for you to live a healthy free and fulfilled life as been infected is not a death sentence but a new beginning to a more healthier happy life.......

1. TAKE NOTE OF YOUR BODY CHANGES; as a female do you have an unusual discharge with a foul smell,abnormal periods,lower abdominal pain or aches,itching or sores that may be painful or just seem harmless. now as a male do you have abnormal growths or sores,itching,blood in urine or semen.Females do you have unusual discharges,unusual bleeding,lower abdominal pains,sores or ulcers but generally it may also include oral thrush or sore gums due to oral sex but that depends on the type of infection.

2. SELF MEDICATION;once it is sexual transmitted infection,self medication or taking drugs without  doctors advice is the worst thing to do.please you should not take or rub any type of drug except you have seen a doctor. Certain hypothesis needs to be confirmed before drugs can be administered to you.

3. SEE A PROFESSIONAL DOCTOR; I added professional before the doctor for you to understand that a chemist is not a doctor,most definitely you will be sent for tests to confirm what is exactly wrong with you. Remember to tell the doctor nothing but the whole truth,hiding your health problem from a doctor is a sure way of signing your death warrant as whatever information you provide is exactly what you will be treated with. The more honest the better and PLEASE Don't visit a chemist telling him to give you just any antibiotics,that is drug abuse.

4.GET TESTED; Run your tests as that will confirm exactly what is wrong and that is where your healing begins,as a test should reveal what is wrong and also in very good hospital reveal the drugs that you may be reactive to. A test maybe really hard for some people especially HIV,but you have nothing to fear,its just and only a test not a death sentence.

5.ALL OF IT;Take your drugs exactly as it was instructed,missing any part of the drugs has a away of causing you microbial resistance tendencies making it possible for the drug not to work. Remember a good meal will help the effectiveness of the drug so don't take any drug on an empty stomach except its a directive from the doctor. Its best for you to set alarm,take them along always,just to make sure you don't ever forget to send them down there. 

6. ITS THE BEST TIME TO ABSTAIN; When you are on treatment for any form of STD is the best time to sexually abstain,this helps your healing but if you think body nobi firewood,abeg i take God beg you,use a condom. Having unprotected sex increases your chances of reinfection or even infecting

someone else but most importantly get your partner to go for treatment as well. if your partner doesn't then its just as good as you have never been treated since you have the chances of falling into the same trap again.

7. REDUCE TO THE LOWEST TERM; Make up your mind to Drastically reduce the number of your sexual partners once you are treated. remember it doesn't make sense treating yourself and still engaging in risky behaviors,its better to have just one faithful partner with protected sex but best to  abstain which is very possible. Don't forget having a viral STD means u will have to be placed on medication in most cases for life so could you Reduce the number to the lowest term which could be one or better still, zero.

Having an STD is not a death sentence. However, not all of them are only gotten from just unprotected sex. They can also be gotten from poor personal hygiene like sharing towels,inner wears,toothbrushes,unclean toilet,blood transfusion,sharing sharp objects and then mother to child transmission during pregnancy,childbirth or breastfeeding. this means improving on our personal hygiene also plays a very important role in your staying healthy and happy.

YOU!!! BEFORE YOU SLEEP

1 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH ANGER

Anger they say is a small madness,and to think that you can sleep with anger is one very tough battle for anyone that has tried it. you never know how much pressure you subject your heart to,which could lead to a heart attack or cardiac arrest. you can 

actually sort whatever fumed you day by doing the opposite of what you are doing. mix up with good friends that cheer you up,watch a funny movie,read a good book or better still try sorting it out. your sweet dreams should not be full of bad depressive thoughts.

2 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH PHONES

Leaving the phone on your bed,under your pillow or anywhere near you is not just advisable as phones emit electromagnetic radiation though in small quantity but should not be encouraged.its usual to see some people that use their phones as alarm clocks,but please put the phone as far as possible,maybe on a table. These electromagnetic waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system. however if you have to keep your phone on your bed,try to switch it off.

3 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH CONTACT LENS

The eye is one of most sensitive and important part of the human body. Sleeping with your 

contact lens harbors dirt and bacteria especially those that are not designed to be worn at night. 

This also affects the cornea and causes swelling of the eyelids, redness of the eye and 

keratitis,a contact lens infection.please save yourself the blindness by removing your contact 

lenses,we know your eyes may be of no value but your family members will have to give up 

their personal assignments to take care of you as a blind Bartiamus. 

4 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH A WRIST WATCH

Sleeping with a wrist watch or any other wrist jewelry has an adverse effect in your 

circulatory system,which affects the rate and level of blood flow. the absence of blood 

flow brings about blood clotting or even in worst cases seizures.its best you avoid 

anything that will block your blood flow as that can be dangerous to your health.

Wrist watches also emit small radiation that affect the health of the humans.

5- DO NOT SLEEP WITH A BAD ROOM TEMPERATURE.

The Room temperature plays a very important role in our sleep as the hotness and 

coldness of the room determines how well we sleep all through the night or how 

healthy we wake up the next day. sleeping in a very cold room is harmful just 

as sleeping in a very hot or not well ventilated room. However,the weather can change 

but we should be able to cross all 't's and dot all 'i's in order to avoid cold or meningitis. 

6- DO NOT SLEEP WEARING BRA OR TIGHT PANTS

I really wonder how some folks feel very comfortable sleeping with tight pants and bra on.this is not just about the girls,even the men some wear tight boxers,shorts or pants to bed. 

Those organs up there and down there deserves some fresh air you know,and the effect of those tight things on your circulatory system cannot be over emphasized as it disrupts blood flow and causes uneasiness during your sleep. sure you what they say,that every part of the body needs some fresh air to increase effectiveness, so set them free.

7- DO NOT SLEEP WITH SOMEONE'S PROPERTY

There are some unimaginable circumstances that can be mind blowing. do not sleep with someones wife o husband and the issue is this,you cant tell what happens in hours. Remember you don't hold tomorrow as you may sleep and never wake up again and what happens to your body may be unheard of which may not just be too good for your image. you can never trust human beings,your body may actually end up in the trash. Everybody,please take note.

8- DO NOT SLEEP WEARING EAR PHONES

All these super stars and super divas like me that love ear phones,sure anybody that knows me well will always link me to an earphone.when you wake up in the morning,you can listen to all the songs that you want till evening but once its time for you to sleep,please try to unplug and use the normal speakers as you may be playing scramble with your ear drums,and i bet you the earphone will surely win. I sure wont enjoying seeing you in that state,or would you rather use a hearing aid.that may sure look good on you i bet. 

9- DO NOT SLEEP WITH CANDLES ON

Leaving candles on,be it scented or unscented is one of the most dangerous things people do to show some kind of love,i don't know how they do it oh but i am telling you that the result could be roasted meat and a smoky smell instead of the lavender or jasmine fragrance that was expected. An ignited candle is fire,nobody plays with fire,so when you have scented your room for all your use,please extinguish it well. 

10- DO NOT SLEEP WEARING MAKE UP

People who sleep with make up end up having some funny skin issues

after a while as Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also find it a bit difficult to fall asleep because your skin will feel sticky and heavy. using a moist face whips wont be a bad idea in case you don't want to shower and pour water on your face so you can save your false eye lashes.(i know the feeling). 

11-  DO NOT SLEEP WITHOUT HAVING A SHOWER

A shower and most especially a cold shower is usually a great source of relief after a long rough day. Having a bath helps to rejuvenate the body system and calm the nerves after all the tussles. Its true that sometimes we all get tired and worn out to even have a bath but its usually your first level of healing and a great way to start you sleep,as the whole body is relaxed and of course all the body cells,systems,tissues and mechanisms returns to a neutral state making it easier for you to fall asleep.

12-  DO NOT SLEEP IN A NOISY ROOM

Staying in a noisy environment increases your adrenaline level and streamlines anxiety in every part of your system how much more sleeping in a noisy room. the tension,the distractions and of course the restlessness all draw to the conclusion that you may end up with a headache or insomnia.Try leaving the present room to another one. Sleep is one very expensive vaccine that is for free,don't trade it for anything else except when you need to work and get things done,then you can always sleep all you can later. 

this article was not written as a licence for people to wake up and go back to bed then say Zara said so. it was written as a bill to a healthy positive living to help you improve well enough to function better and to teach you about some crazy things we do daily that are harmful to our health,so i hope you learnt a thing or two. Remember,Sleep is to the Body as Work is to the body too. Adios

WOMAN!!!! BEFORE YOU MARRY

The dream of every sane woman is to sit on a white horse beside her charming prince from a foreign land on a beautiful trip of marriage with enough luxury and comfort that will make everyone around her envious. She wants an engagement party on a beach,a bridal shower in Paris,a wedding party at the Barbados,honeymoon in the best Kenyan Resort,if not a one month world tour.
However, soon after the dotted lines are signed,the honeymoon is over and the wedding gown sits on a hanger or maybe the bottom of her box, they tend to realize that marriage is far from the bed of roses they thought it would be. For many, it is a ride to hell,while to others its just a slow,sweet,solemn journey that deserves nothing else but the very best of commitment and understanding.
In spite of the challenges associated with getting married, there are a few wisdom nuggets every spinster should have at the back of her mind before saying ‘I do’. They will help moderate your expectations and give a guide on how to wriggle out of sticky situations that may want to blow ur mind out of the normal.

1. GET INTO THE FIELD.
A lot of women are stuck in bad marriages simply because they do not have a valid way to support themselves or their children should they walk away or seek a divorce.

Get an education if you can or learn a trade and pursue a career that interests and challenges you. Know how to handle your finances, earn money on your own terms and only accumulate as little debt as you can realistically handle. you sure don't need to buy all the designer dresses,hair,bags and shoes then walk down the street looking like a sexy debtor,with no source of income. Don’t expect your parents or partners to bail you out of financial trouble. Learn to be your own financial hero. if you always buy things you don't need,soon you may have to sell the things you need to buy the things you want. Remember you should be a plan ''B'' in case your partner falls ill,loses his job or something bad happens, You need to be able to financially stand on your two feet as supportive wife.

2. READY 'STEADY' COOK.
That old saying which goes ‘the road to a man’s heart is through his stomach’ is absolutely true.
A man is one person that sees love,care and attention in the quality of food you serve him,not because food is all he desires,but as a result of the fact that a good plate of food makes a difference in the life of a tired,hungry man.you don't learn how to cook by been the best customer of any eatery. you cant learn how to cook if you don't cook constantly as you can always correct your past mistake in the next one.there is no quarrel a hot plate of pounded yam and oha soup or any food that pleases his heart,cannot settle,once you put your heart to it. Therefore,If you are not such a great cook, you can learn by going to a cookery school or getting a trusted friend to teach you.

3. KNOW WHEN TO KEEP QUIET.
Nobody in the world wins every battle especially when you are right and he’s wrong. Sometimes, he might just want to be stubborn or maybe he had a rough day at work and he wants to use that opportunity to transfer aggression or prove ‘he is a man. Let it go! there is no man that likes to argue blindly with his woman,like seriously. sometimes keeping quiet puts him on the edge to even ask if you are fine.you don't need to argue,to get angry and exhausted,to hit your palm on the table or even yell at him for you to win an argument. Remember,you may win the argument and lose that man. The solution to some of the challenges we experience are in simply staying calm and letting go.

4. WHO IS YOUR MENTOR?
Albert Einstein said that If you cant explain it to a 5 year old,then you don't know it well enough. there is nobody in the world that doesn't know somebody as we all need advice every now and then. That is why everybody needs a mentor. She does not have to be your pastor or your boss at work as even your Pastor looks up to someone, somewhere. She could just be a woman who is older and more experienced than you and has an evidently great and successful marriage. you cant possibly expect a good advice from a divorced bitter woman that will tell you that all men are the same.

Your mentor is someone who you can count on not to lead you astray. But always remember to think through whatever advice you are given; if it does not match the teachings in the right moral and spritiual norms,please run for your life. A wounded dog is indeed better than a dead lion

Finally read books,not just any book but good books that teach you more than you already know. They will expand your mind and build up your self esteem,driving you through a better view of every aspect of life in general. A home without books is like a soul without a body.
The book is to the mind what the sword is to the wet stone.

BROTHER WALE

As i walked into the bathroom that night,i felt this unusual weakness in my limbs.i had a long day at school and came back worn out as a result of the days activities.i rushed the plate of food my mother gave to me and took some water before i laid down to take a short nap.it was about 6.30 pm. i slept and finally woke up at about 10 pm.i needed to shower and read my books for the next days exam.just as i looked out of the bathroom window to the darkness that had taken over the universe except for the street lights that gave bright rays to the vicinity  i noticed some funny movements but i picked up my bathing soap and quietly began to have my bath.suddenly the power went off and i heard 3 gunshots that sent cold shivers down my spine. Even with my soaked body i began to shiver and sweat at the same time.i was so scared. in the bathroom alone with no light and then gunshots.No,this is very unusual i thought and rushed my bath but only then did i hear profuse wails and screams from our neighbor's house,just two poles away from ours. I heard strong knocks on the bathroom door,it was my elder brother Wale. Femi he called,did you hear the gunshots,its from Bayo's house oh.i think he has been kicked.oh boy i am leaving town straight away.i cant stand this seriously.No chances oh.Wale said and his voice disappeared.I slumped in the bathroom floor.
Wale visited the scene of the murder and Bayo was shot in the head and chest.he died on the spot.we learnt he came home after his exams and went to bed like we all did after a long day,but at the time he was shot he received a call from someone asking him to come downstairs for a message and before he made his way down stairs they were already at the door.they shot him and left immediately.He was the only son of his parents.His father was very rich and affluent,we all grew up together,attended the same primary and secondary school and now in the university we all went to school in his car,Wale and myself. I thought of his loss and how terrible his mum must be feeling right now,i could hear her wails from my room.i could feel the sudden calm and cold dark night,i could only hear her voice in the depth of the night. Bayo was gone, unbelievable. I thought of Ruky his girlfriend his solemn reason for going into a cult.she must be sleeping now maybe in another man's bed without knowing that Bayo was heading to the mortuary.i was restless,i was so scared.my mum came and knocked at my door to tell me that she was going down to know if truly that Bayo was dead.i cant remember what my response was. i was lost in thought.i flashed back to that faithful day we were at the library that Ruky walked in and Bayo lost his mind to the level that he has lost his life this very night. Ruky was dating a cult guy and Bayo stepping into her life was not helping matters. the trauma he was put through because of her was more than enough.He could not cope with the frustration instilled on him by Sharp and his men so he joined a cult which was the beginning of another life for him.he lived in fear,confusion and trembling.i actually saw that as a weird life living fear of gun men,why would i ever do that,not for anything or anyone in the world.
Cultism has left indelible marks on the lives of a lot of people,parents have lost their children,people have lost their brothers,sometimes sisters and other loved one. Alot of under graduates dropped out of school out of fear of dying shamelessly,parents sell their properties to send their children to school only to welcome back some bad news that strikes their hearts with bile.Why should you venture into something that will pay you nothing but subject you to trauma,loss and restlessness. You are a youth for you to be useful not for you to be mourned for. Be in the right charge of your life,Be a good boss to yourself then know what counts and what doesn't. Of course,every choice you make,shapes your life!
Bayo was buried the next day but now my question is; where is Wale my elder brother? could he have sold his soul the devil like Bayo did and chosen to live in total fear of death? Where is Brother Wale ehhhh?

SAY NO TO CULTISM!!!!!!!!!

CRUXIFIED

Today happens to be the very best day of my life...i have my peace,my joy,my inner peace and lasting happiness is here to stay. i no longer know nothing,now i know everything.my babies are laying in their cots,healthy and happy. they cant even imagine what am going through but i watched as my mother nursed and watched over them with so much love and tenderness. How sweet and selfless is the love of a mother. Grandmothers are special,no wonder my friend use to tell me that grandmothers are the only ones who treated us like we were all that really mattered. As she watched them,i saw the love in her eyes. Blossom and Bounty were all that mattered now,all others were irrelevant. Grand children mean so much to our parents yo know.
I was born with what i call the wooden spoon,you may never understand.but be it obeche,iroko,mousonia or mohagany,a wood can never survive the fire.it may take some time for some wood but it eventually burns.i was the 3rd of seven children and 2nd daughter. my father lived,breath,swam and jobbed on alchohol.he was a welder while my mother had a shop in front of our neigbourhood.she was known as mama Emeka but due to lack of finances.Emeka was sent to learn a trade in the big city of onitsha when he was 12 while my sister Nnenna was sent to Enugu city to live with some woman we never met. I Nneka,Ifeanyi,Amechi,Obum and Azuka were with our parents. feeding was such a luxry how much more clothing and other extras. we all remained in the village until i was also sent to leave with another woman.i remember how cruel our father could be to us and our mother,how he use to come home dead drunk harassing everybody and blaming our mother for his poverty. how he had a motocycle before they got married and now he has nothing. All of us would burst into tears and cry the whole night.Our hypertensive mother will fall ill for days and we would all pray he would just die in his snoring sleep. sure,the role of your father remains significant in your life even if he was absent from it.we all grew up and after some years,Emeka was sent home for stealing his masters money,just a year to his settlement. He actually sent that money to us one of the times our mother was in the hospital.he came home a changed man,smoking drinking and loafing about. Nnenna was sent home pregnant.....she said she was raped by her aunty's husband.it was war when she came back and in an attempt to hide the truth,she went for an abortion and died. my mother went out of reach as we battled for her life too. in a clash of fury Emeka pushed our father and he slumped to death. we had two corpses to bury in one day.
Now i was sent to the city this time to live with a distant cousin,i was nearly killed and defiled but i actually survived all the home misdemeanors until i got to school and met Ebere.we met during a youth program organised by the local government in my school.''SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX''.she kept on arguing all the speakers where saying and i admired her courage.so somehow we became friends and soon we were birds of the same feathers. she would take me to visit some of her male friends and we would drink to forget the ill treatments i faced at home. And it was there i met and fell in love with Okey,he told me all the beautiful things i have never heard before.he would give me 200naira when am going back home.he would call me Nne'm,my only Nne.i was so happy and knew the joy that sprang up from the inside,deep down the root of love.i would read his letters a thousand times in the middle of the night and missed school some days just to spend some time with him. i felt like i was in heaven.the flowers,letters,my broken cherry and the money i felt was like millions really made my day but not until i travelled home for christmas and what i feared most came upon me.just like my sister,I WAS PREGNANT...my mother was the first to notice and wailed down our neigbourhood. Emeka beat me up until i lost conciousness.just before i could say Nne,i was traditionally married off to okey at 15 and the truth began to unfold.he was an apprentice just like my elder brother Emeka.i got the shock of my life.the house he was always taking me to was his friend's house.infact,he was living with his master,in the boys quarter.then like a tree,my pain grew with each passing day.he would beat me to pulp,till i bleed.he would starve me and lock me out of the house under the rain for days,he denied me access to health care and all forms of comfort.As days grew into months i was left with just a blouse and wrapperas none of my clothes were still my size.I had no means of communication,no friends,no external interaction.Nothing.Labour pains were unbearable as it was one of the days he never came home but thank God for his rest and peace that money cannot buy.i was delivered of a set of twins,a boy and girl that came with so much happiness. I named them Blossom and Bounty.my legcy,my only foot prints.I had them,i slept and never woke up.my mother was so heartbroken but now she is here and my kids will be fine.
Today is my funeral,i have found lasting peace in the arms of my creator.my children are safe with my mother as much as am safe with God,hoping that everything pain i felt has been erased as i may have lived a bad life not well celebrated but i have had two generations with a chance of correction.
Most definitely,premarital sex sure has a glaring way of terminating your future and stopping your growth.it has nothing to do with government,it begins with the family,the religious houses,the school,the social medias,the kind of friends you cling to and of course most importantly,it begins with you.You are in charge of your life forever and every choice you make shapes your life in all areas.
Good night and i hope you learnt a thing or two from my story...............




say no to unprotected premarital sex,
child abuse,sexual abuse,teenage unplanned pregnancy,
unsafe abortion and all risky behaviours.

Seven Things You Need To Know About Condoms

A condom is a barrier device commonly used during sexual intercourse to reduce the probability of pregnancy and spreading sexually transmitted diseases. It is put on a man's erect penis or a woman's uterus and physically blocks ejaculated semen from entering the body of a sexual partner. Condoms are also used for collection of semen for use in infertility treatment. 

As a method of birth control, male condoms have the advantage of being inexpensive, easy to use, having few side effects, and offering protection against sexually transmitted diseases. The condom has been one of the most popular methods of contraception in the world. While widely accepted in modern times and massively consumed but here are some basic facts you never knew about condoms;

1. Condoms have been around since 1000 B.C. 

Evidence of condom use among Egyptians stretches back as far back as 1000 B.C. Then, in the 18th century, condoms began being manufactured out of animal intestines. In the 19th century, rubber became the material of choice for rubbers, and the 20th century ushered in the age of latex. Some folks still use lambskin condoms, and swear by their extra sensitivity. However, for anyone who was in a fraternity, that probably hits a little too close to home.

2. Some condoms are bigger than others.

The world's largest "condom" was a 127-foot-tall hot-air balloon version of a rubber unleashed during a Dutch safe-sex festival. The world's largest condom that a man who is probably not being entirely honest would actually put on his penis is the Durex XXL, which, at 9.5 inches, recently passed the Magnum XL for overall size supremacy and of course female condoms are larger and longer than the male. the males also has the kings size so you see,they are folks that are really large down there in case you want to try but they are not horses though.

3. Wearing two condoms doesn't work.

Wearing two condoms doesn't just increase friction,but decreases the lubrication of the vagina,causing dryness,wear and tear which can result to breakage or bursting of both condoms. Now let me ask,do you use two umbrellas no matter the magnitude of the rain,that's a big NO. Just as you don't fix two class cups together to take water because you are so thirsty.

4. Vaseline and Condoms are a big fat DONT 

Condoms and Vaseline seem like using a black powder on a light skin,it's powder but not the correct result. In fact, Vaseline, or any oil-based lubricant, will act to disintegrate most condoms. You can use water base lubricates but be it vaseline,oil or groundnut oil increases wear and may result to leakage or breakage. That's as good as having a skin to skin you know. No result!

5. Condoms are like Etisalat (you choose)

Like seriously,it doesn't matter if you bought a condom for a million dollar,they all do the same thing. If one is sold for a thousand and the other a hundred,it doesn't make it any better.once it's not expired and you got it from a good shop or pharmacy.condoms come in different sizes,colors,fragrances and designs too including the female condoms which are widely making waves in our present society for the ladies, so you choose and color your world.

6. Condoms has its basic code of conducts

Recently, a couple of issues just came up on condoms as not been 100% effective.  Remember that only abstinence is reliable as every other contraceptive involves crossing a few 'T's and dotting some 'I's. that is why we advice,"correct and consistent" use of condom. so anytime you meet an unplanned bun in the oven,it means it may have been an expired condom or possibly you did it wrong.

7. Condoms are the only Dual protection.

Sure it's dual because it does two different things at the same time it also protects against STDs  as well as the dreaded HIV and also plays an important role in preventing pregnancy. That is why it's safer than the pills, IUD devices and other natural methods of family planning except you want something more permanent,if you know what I mean.

Now when next you consider sexual intercourse,
would you rather consider a dual protection 
that is less than 100% effective or would you
be sure to hold on to yourself and practice 100% abstinence.

Use your head and think ahead.

Fruitful Days....

fruitful days are here,
all are here not there.
fruitful days has come,
you create it here not there.
fruitful days may be slow,
but the gains you earn last more.

fruitful days just like the air,
always here not far away.
fruitful days are not always seen,
where wisdom and discipline lack.
fruitful days are not always clear,
senses must smell it near.

fruitful days we all await,
not all sees when it comes.
fruitful days make me and you,
nature needs us to make it work.
fruitful days wont walk away,
if we hold on to our faith and work.

fruitful days your waves we feel,
who feels and not tap from it.
fruitful days is all we need,
feel it and embrace it all.
fruitful days are everyday,
since everyday is a good day.

My Mother,My Friend.

My Mother, My Friend,
The only woman that truly cares.
My Mother,My Friend,
The only one that forever cleaves.
My Mother,My Friend,
The only one that never leaves.


My Mother, My friend.
When all fails,she still remains,
My Mother,My Friend.
When the clouds are dark,my light,
My Mother,My Friend.
When the storms attack,my peace.


My Mother, My Friend,
She is her husband's pride.
My Mother, My Friend,
She is her children's jewel.
My Mother, My Friend
She is my treasure,not to be sold.

My Mother, My Friend,
Let the world hail my priceless pearl.
My Mother, My Friend,
Let grace embrace and comfort her.
My Mother, My Friend,
Let my creator,bless and reward her.

Dedicated to my Stainless Mum 
and all great mothers in the world,
this very day.........
Happy Mothering Sunday

Love,Across The Miles .........

Sweetness, can i call you tomorrow? He asked,yes dear,call me tomorrow. Baby i miss you more than words can say. I thought you would be home this Xmas you know. Am so lonely..she said. Yes baby girl,i know. i will visit Africa soon i promise. Just send me the list of all the stuffs you need so i can get them for you when am coming. i promise i won't disappoint this time. he pleaded"OK. She agreed"Its just that i miss u. Its been 3 years. That's a very long time you know. Its not just right and my parents are beginning to get worried. my younger sister is getting married next month and everyone thinks something is wrong with me. She replied. Baby,its fine. I will be with you soon enough, am gonna get you the latest Bentley. Sweetheart,let's make love on the phone. Baby, are u there. I have missed you the whole day could you please tell me something sweet. "He kept teasing" Baby are u there. He asked again". Yes am here. She replied.I guess you are been all emotional. I have to go, i will call you later tonight so i can hear that sexy voice of yours alright. Alright!! She replied. I love you the mother of my unborn kids,he teased..... I love you too she replied and the line went DEAD....

Distance relationship is the prolonged absence of one's partner which brings about a bridge in the normal expected communication. This is said to be one of the highest factors contributing to infidelity,failed and unhappy marriages all over the world. In as much as out of sight may not be out of heart,long distance syndrome dissipates the passion in a relationship if no effort is made for correction or if the absence goes beyond negotiation.

Love across the miles entails both partners living apart as a result of certain circumstances such as a Job,studies,greener pastures or maybe out of compulsion. Distance could be miles,countries away,states,oceans or continents away and increases the chances of infidelity,risky behaviors with anxiety,depression,lack of concentration,loss of trust and fatigue.

Love across the miles is on the increase and we need to monitor and evaluate ourselves if we are in such a relationship since it can be either avoided or neglected; if you don't value that relationship. If you are not willing to move when all the chances has been weighed and the arrow is pointing your direction,then you are wrong!!!

As sad as it may sound nowadays couples successfully love across the miles with the husband across the miles,the wife runs her career like the German machine,with both faced with the chances of cheating,flings or office romance. They have and raise kids with a nanny at their beck who in most cases passes the wrong messages to their young minds. How can a rarely home mum play the role of a father and a mother without getting the kids confused. The everyday "come and talk to daddy" thing is not just enough. He comes home once in a year to spend a week or two which would also be used to visit other extended families. The role and presence of parents play important part in the life of the children. its not by taking them to big schools or vacations abroad.

There is a clear difference between a trip and the absence of a partner. No amount of making up is ever enough.

Parenthood and relationship is a call,don't answer if u are not ready. Marriages and relationships get harder as partners exchange toy gifts,same sex relationship is on rapid increase,yes and we all agree that everything is fine. No! A toy can not replace a human,someone you to love is just irreplaceable. If you want a relationship,forget people,pull out all your emotions,be ready and willing to protect it, its yours.

Distance conceal a lot of things that may be happening, some habits and characters that can keep you living in a fools paradise. You may get into love across the miles and may never wake up to understand the wasted years.

Relationships has gone beyond voice notes,emails and phone calls. Its all hands on deck, let's make it work not walk. you may never know what people in distance relationships go through.you don't wanna know i bet you.

Prepare your minds,start seeing beyond the hidden agendas and start working towards a Godly relationship,start giving in your best,be willing and ready to sacrifice all you can now when you can. Look above the Barrytone voice and showered gifts.

Every good thing comes with time,let love be your religion and not just a word because a divorce is an amputation that leaves a permanent scar, open for all to see.

The Born Again...........

Zara Eni is a prolific writer, a HIV Counseling and Testing counselor (HCT),
an adolescent Reproductive health Ambassador,
works with a leading HIV/AIDS NGO in Abuja, Nigeria.

She is a singer, a motivational speaker and a blogger.



"Stand up…" your mother is here to see you” came the voice of Ebere, the most horrible voice I have heard in the past 2 months her voice came like a roaring thunder, like a bile in my tongue causing me to feel even more nauseous. I couldn't stop wondering why she can’t be nice. No!!! I can’t pull through this with this damned woman. For God sake I think she is not just encouraging and doesn't also know her job description. I have been ill for days and haven’t been eating well though I felt so weak and hungry these days. My period has been on leave and has refused to start work in the past few weeks. My mum sure visits every now and then but sometimes I just feel like seeing no one but myself. With the very last strength left in me, I managed to stagger up and out of the room. I walked briskly like I was going to fall but I still managed to find myself and hold my feet. My mum looked deep asleep though she was awake; all her smiles were gone with the wind though she still found a way to force them out in response to mine. She is basically the only one that sticks and doesn't wither amidst all storms of life. “Hi, mum, good morning. I managed to say, my princess ‘she called, what is wrong with you? Why have you refused to let go of the past, she asked.mum you know am trying, am going to be fine soon, ok! We will pull through this together and I will be out of here soon enough. We will all be happy again.” I consoled’ .mum gave me a warm hug, one thing that gets me going this critical moment. She’s my jewel of inestimable value. She looked at me, held my hand and right there before her, I started throwing up. When I finally looked up, the look on her face scared me to death as the most terrifying question came; Olaedo, ARE YOU PREGNANT? Like an arrow soaked in the venom of a black mamba, it pierced my soul. I couldn't look up; I could not speak.cry or even blink. Mum busted into tears and I heard the word, "time up, to your cell",came the voice of Ebere. I moved back to my darkness, my silence, the very echo of my own voice. I cried for the very first time since I came to the cell. It dawned on me that my life was on a compound pendulum, that if I didn't talk as soon as possible I may lose it all. Now my mum is heartbroken, friends have taken long walks and apparently I was only left with family. Alone with my thoughts, I slept off even without opening the food.
I was woken up by cries from the general cell; an inmate just died but that wasn't new anymore. More died everyday and most times we don’t even know what day or time of the day it was. We just lived one day at a time. Tomorrow I will appear in court for the first time, for murder. I had mixed feelings and thoughts, committing suicide, carrying the baby of a rapist. I thought of my parents, my mum, my dad, my siblings and everyone I knew. In here am alone, no family or friends. Sometimes I don’t speak to anyone for days. I haven’t even spoken to my lawyer yet. My room was cold, mum wanted me to stay alone; I don’t want my baby to mix up with all those criminals she would say. But dohhh, we are all criminal. We are all in uniforms, we are all in chains and we are all in jail. I had my meal in silence and just as I was about to take a nap, my lawyer’s presence was announced. Olaedo how are you doing? “She asked”. Am fine ma.”I replied”, my name is Barrister Bola Bayo your new lawyer and you have to tell me about it all before we can face the court tomorrow. I heard you refused to talk to any of the old lawyers but you need to understand that you have been here for two months already and your silence will only activate more number of days. Please the warder you need to excuse us, I need some privacy with my client. ’Bola walked Ebere out of the room. I saw the look on her face as she walked out of the room. I took a deep sigh of relief as I watched her move her heavy body. Now Olaedo, talk to me, am all ears now, what exactly happened on that faithful day. In the most sober reflection, I began my story, the story that changed my life forever… so did you hit him in the head, ‘she asked’, Barrister I didn't hit him so I don’t know anything about the internal brain injury; ’I sobbed. Tears rolled down my face and I wiped my cheeks with the back of my palm, it then dawned on me that I was oozing seriously, I was smelling so differently; all the alluring scents from Elizabeth Arden, Victoria secrets and cupcakes from bodycology cologne were all gone. She listened to me and took note of every word I said. She encouraged me to be honest, strong and confident in court as that will boost my freedom chances with the judge.

I was found guilty of man slaughter under self defense during sexual abuse, and I was sentenced to 3 years imprisonment without a parole. I had my baby in jail and was faced with the trauma of living without her. Rainbow was not a prisoner and could not remain in jail with me, all thanks to my mum and family members. Family indeed is the greatest gift of love. She was sweet and pretty. It was my birthday and my family visited. Kelvin came with them to my greatest surprise and I was excited. I haven’t seen him in 2 years i heard he travelled out and I was in jail, that’s crazy. Wasted years!! He became a regular visitor and I got to know Sandra was married, Olu relocated and Michael was running his masters abroad. I was doing well in jail oh, but the outside world will have been a better option. My mum, Kevin and a few family members where there for me. I looked forward to my freedom and it finally came faster than I thought. I was set free, free indeed.

I was released after 3 years; of course Rainbow was 2 years old already. I came home to a surprise welcome party hosted by Kelvin. It was my first occasion in 3 years and it was worth while as I got to meet friends and family I haven’t seen in a while. Right there at the party, Kevin proposed to me, my joy knew no bounds as I accepted and was getting ready to pick up the pieces of my life again. My life started falling into place again, I went back to school, rounded up and got good job then I got married to Kevin. He led me to Christ right from my days in jail and I bet you there is no better position than the wife of a pastor, We were pastors with our different jobs and God was so merciful to us all. We had just Rainbow for a while but after two years, we were blessed with a set of twin angelic boys. My heart went afloat with joy. My husband was out of the country and we were expecting him that same day. My daughter had been down with typhoid and malaria with just my mum to take care of her as she clung to grandma’s arms when Kevin walked in and the atmosphere changed. Lots of family and church members were walking in and out of my room. Lots of bags for the kids and for me. I was asked to sleep as I was given some pain killers and I remember dreaming of having a wonderful family dinner. I slept the whole day and woke up later in the evening.


I was worried and had to ask the Doctor how my kids were doing. Your boys are fine and your daughter I doing well too. She’s responding now, her father gave her some blood so she’s picking up, the fever is low now. The doctor replied. I slowly sank into my bed without word, how could AB give blood to blood group O? That’s not possible. I thought for a while and asked the doctor, only to confirm Kevin was the same blood group with Rainbow. I busted into tears, God let this not be true please. the pain is too much for me to bear.Kevin couldn't deny it, Jide drugged me for Kevin to get laid for the first time. Jide and I had been very good friends since we got into school. it was a clique thing, him, myself, Olu, Kevin, Sandra, Funmi and Michael. I wasn't ready for anything serious since we all rolled together, it was his birthday and we all visited, had fun and partied but how I woke up in his bed was unexplained. I didn't say a word because I met Sandra in his room with Olu. i don’t take alcohol so what exactly happened to me. My thought went to and fro as I went back to my apartment that day but while I was having my bath, I noticed I had been raped and sexually abused, my pant was torn with semen all over the genitals. I lost my mind and dressed up straight back to his house. There was another fight going on already. Sasha one of the hottest girls on campus had already turned his house inside out. On seeing me they got even more deranged. Her voice tempo increased, so she is the tramp you locked me out for, oh she’s the one, Sasha asked. I looked at her and managed to mutter a WHAT? Olaedo you are a tramp, what have you come here to do, I thought you claimed to be a virgin, so what are you here for; came the voice of the one that defiled me. My brain went reverse and all i did was pick up the knife on the table and rushed over to him and stabbed him, and he started beating me blue black before suddenly he screamed holding his head then he fell. Sasha took to her heels…all my testimonies in court was like flogging a dead horse, no one believed me, I had no witnesses, no one to talk to or confide in, so I faced my music alone, I sang alone, danced alone and cheered myself alone too.

I have been living with the man who changed my story.How do I tell other women to save their marriages when I don’t have mine, I have been betrayed to the latter. Kevin laid me without a condom that faithful night, Jide died, I got pregnant, I went to jail as a criminal, he wasted 3 years of my life and gave his own life to Christ, became a pastor and converted me to Christ then married me to feel good about himself. God!!! Mba nu, this is out of it this time. Am not for his self-gratification or an object of Kevin righteousness.

The wasted years of pain, agony, labor pains, natal blues, depressions, what happens to them. How do I fix the broken heart and all those lonely moments of three solid years? Is it the lost academic year…the court sessions….my family,my peace.....

NO!!!!!!! Help!!!!! I am a born again Christian, I have paid my dues, I give and sow seeds, I pay my tithe, I pray to God and I also forgive…but living with him is like going into another jail with worse labor. Rainbow, Daniel and David are doing great in school now but Kevin hasn't stopped coming. I walked away because that is the only way out, the cross is too long for me to bear, the wrapper Is too long and the long walk to freedom Is taking years. Truth be told, I miss my marriage, I miss the man I married, I miss the family I built, I miss my happiness but you may never know how hard and painful these things could be…until you wear my shoes.

Millennium development goals in the lives of young people

The Millennium development goals were officially established by the United Nations under the UN-secretary Kofi Annan in the year 2000 And involved the 193 united Nations member countries. It was set with the eight goals which includes;poverty And hunger eradication, Universal primary Education,gender equality And women empowerment, reducing maternal mortality, Reducing Child mortality, combating Hiv/Aids with malaria And other diseases, Environmental sustainability And Global partnership for development.

The main aim of the Millennium development goals was to encourage And improve the social, health, economic And educational sectors of developing countries. The millennium development goals actually evolves through the lives of every individual in every country especially the young people as they affect,define,influence And effect their lives as the case may be. According to the World Health Organisation (WHO),a young Person is any individual between the ages of 9-30years which makes up about 40% of any country's population.Every young person is entitled to quality education,adequate health care, favorable economic And environmental condition And gender equality. If proper knowledge is not instilled in any average young person,we would be faced with high crime rate,high maternal mortality And child mortality,decreased fertility rate,increased gender inequality,epidermic outburst of diseases like HIV/Aids, tuberculosis, malaria,Sexual transmitted diseases,teenage pregnancy And of course increase in Abortion rate.
Every country needs to understand that every young person who is in a stable economic,health And environmental condition will be faced by less societal related issues And this can primarily be achieved through education and giving them the correct information. It begins with the federal government,the state,the local government,the wards,the schools,the religious houses. it begins with you And me,it begins with us.
Remember,an educated youth,is a healthy youth And a healthy youth is a wealthy youth. Let's do it,we can!

TELL THEM THE TRUTH .......

Am on my way…..but you haven’t had your bath.

Am in Lagos right now……but you are in Abuja.

I don’t have a boyfriend……but you are engaged.

I need a serious girlfriend……but you are married.

I went to Dubai last week……but you've never boarded a flight.

We only eat rice in my house……but you barely feed trice a day.

My son schooled  in Harvard……but you know its not true.

All these and more are the common lies both young and old tell their friends, family and well wishers every now and then. Sure, honesty is very expensive and you don’t expect it from cheap people.

Lying means deceit, falsehood, voluntary error or a deliberate untruth. People tell all sorts of lies daily and defend them and here are the few reasons why people lie. People lie in defense, to protect other lies, to manipulate other people, to win a prize or title, for power, to cheat or for self gratification.

Honesty is the best policy as Lying has a lot of physical, mental and spiritual adverse effects. It puts anyone into psychological instability, spiritual deformation and can be a mental hazard to the general well being which could lead to minor health issues like headache, sore throat, mood swing, depression and of course, increases the level of the dreaded stress or fatigue.

An average human lies at least eleven times in seven days and with the fact that a lie gives branches to other lies, it hereby increases the heart rate, tension and blood pressure rapidly. For instance, you planned telling your boss a lie this morning, and you walk into his office, told him the false outcome of that meeting and then he throws you a question. Instead of giving him an answer, your pulse increases, you are tensed up already, you can hear your heart beat and you feel so uneasy. Your sweat glands become hyper reactive and at sometime it feels like you are going to faint……..

wawoooh!!!! you need to STOP LYING…..

The very first step to reducing your lying skills is to first make up your mind on a personal ground that you have decided to be honest, to anyone no matter how sad thing turn out to be, hereby by cutting down your lying skills drastically yet gradually. This is a decision you alone can make for yourself; you and no one else. Then you must try as much as possible to mingle only with people who encourage you to tell the truth at all times.  With the wrong company and associates you can only get worse and you must believe me that lying robs you of your inner peace of mind.

Live a positive life, stand for what is right and don’t let the world stop you. Believe it or not, you can be honest, you can be faithful, you can be joyful, peaceful and of course you can make a difference. 

Anything is possible if you remove the ‘T’ and say I CAN, so when next you want to speak to anyone, be it your spouse, family, friend ,colleague or just anyone, just multiply the ‘T’ by four and TELL THEM THE TRUTH………..