Loving The Bad Guy Turn Good

1. Stop nagging and fussing about everything. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. If you want your husband to fix something around the house, ask him in a nice way while you are scratching his head.

2. Fix him breakfast and dinner. Cook his favorite meals and create new dishes with his favorite foods.

3. Leave the past in the past. Don’t constantly bring his mistakes, his past mistakes and old flings in the present. Leave the old stuff in the past, let it go.

4. Keep yourself up. Brush your teeth, keep your breath smelling fresh, bathe in perfumes or good smelling soap. Comb your hair and keep it looking good daily. Keep your nails and toes manicured. eyebrows arched, lips and face crust free. If he loves you it doesn't matter if your booty is flat, he still want you to wear those hiphuggers jeans. He knows exactly how you are shaped and he wants you anyway. So get your sexy lingerie on ok. He’s waiting.

5. Listen To Your Man. You may think that what he has to say is silly but this is the part you really need to listen to. Men don’t explain themselves to often so it’s very important to listen he speaks. From that great speech you learn your man and what he wants. Remember that a man is the king of his castle and he wants to be treated that way.


6. Respect Your Man. Many times and most of the times we are usually right. At times in a relationship being right or wrong is second to respect. You should respect your man at all times and sometimes that mean shutting up and not telling him what you really want to.

7. Be nice and respectful to his mother. Mother-in-laws can be a handful but don’t forget she’s still his mother. The Bible says to honor your mother and father. No matter what he says his mother did to him and what she didn't do for him is not your issues. He’s telling your his issues because you are his friend and he should be able to tell you everything. He’s not telling you this to take up a fight with his mother. He will always love her regardless and he’ll never forget anything bad you said about her.

Marriage is a beautiful and all you need is patience but please be careful in your judgement and do not subject yourself to an abusive relationship. He is your man and not a Hitler or a warlord.

Christiano My Son.......My Prince To Come!!!

Christiano my son,
You are the pride of your mother,
You are the honor of Dike,your father,
You are the reason we can walk miles.
Christiano nwam!!! Ugo nnaya!!!
I called you Christiano, Idika nna gi,
He was a player and a lover,
Your father had the keys to a thousand passions.

Christiano my son,
Ezennaya, i carried you with so much pride,
I remember the night we made you,
Our first night together as di na nwunye.
Christiano nwam, Your father did not play chess that night,
The night was long and the bed was soft,
The stars and the moon watched us in envy,the wind blew i fury,
My Ebubedike your father rode with pride like thunder.

Christiano my son,
Otero aka, nauseous mornings took over your mother,
The effect of you did not hide for once,
I began to bloom and bloom and bloom.
Christiano nwam, Ara gbara nna gi,
I suddenly agadi with a flawless young skin,
Your father wouldn't let me do anything at all,
All he wanted was for me to carry you.

Christiano my son,
I looked into your eyes and i saw my lion,
You were a total replica of your father, Agu'm,
With the brightest eyes piercing my soul, Nwoko!
Christiano nwam, you are the symbol of our love so strong,
Today, we welcome you to our world to stay,to live, to tarry,
Your arrival will not only bring love but wealth in abundance,
Nno Ike'm,your father has just named you; Ezekwesili.

Pregnancy is Pregnancy

Have you heard? She's pregnant, two months pregnant. Yes we have, so now what happens to her?
She loses her future and vision.
She drops out of school.
She stays at home day to day.
She is left to die in the cold.
She is stigmatized and victimized.
She says goodbye to all her dreams.
She is robbed of her childhood.
She is set to be among the less privileged.
She is left to care and care for her and the child.
She is 18 looking 40.
She is left to experience pain and distress.
She is faced with early marriage.
She is risking Vesico Vaginal Fistula.
She is sometimes abandoned by the child's father.
She is left with no one but herself and the baby.
She is a baby carrying and caring for another baby.
She is not given the best of health care she needs.
She is not at the ante natal classes.
She is absent from all social events.
She is socially dead because she is pregnant.

Have you seen him? He is responsible for her pregnancy!!! Really, what happens to him now?
He denies her or drops out of school.
He falls into the hall of depression.
He is avoided by the same friends that encouraged him to have sex.
He is forced to do menial jobs to survive.
He has to care for two people.
He is a child providing for children.
He is robbed of his teen hood.
He is forced into crime and violence.
He is a grown man with shattered dreams and visions.
He is cost his future because of one mistake too many.
He is 30 now looking 60.
He is weary because he has struggled all his life.
He is forced to marry even when he's not yet an adult..
He is prone to lose all the opportunities that come by.
He is forced to make decisions that may thwart his own future.


Now i ask a very simple question, Why does a young teenage girl drop out of school because she is pregnant? Is it that they cannot perform well in class as a result of the pregnancy or is it a form of punishment or disciplinary measure. Well, being pregnant is not a wrong thing i must say but the process that leads to pregnancy out of wedlock is. When young people face situations like this, i bet you that pushing them out of the house or rusticating them from school has no message to pass neither will it make them better adults.

This is because more of such cases are still been reported everyday from all over the world and this means that sending them out of school has not provided a platform for the
other young ones to learn lessons from the victims. Most of the time, the young boy involved is not left out especially if he admits to be responsible for the pregnancy. You will agree with me that in this case honesty is not the best policy. Showing these people pity, love and care will go a long way in making life a bit easier for them. Lets look at leaving the boy in school and sending the girl back to school after she had weaned her baby. Being pregnant is not easy and having a child is not easy either,it requires a stable mind but such a teen remain very unstable for a very long period of time. This has lead to insanity, death, hypertension, pre-eclapmsia and other threatening ailments.

Such a teen find it hard to fit in as a young person or an adult later in life, making it impossible for them to participate in the society. We call it teenage pregnancy,unplanned pregnancy,unwanted pregnancy or even bastard pregnancy. Some of these pregnancies are as a result of rape, sexual abuse fro family members etc and they are never reported, documented or addressed. Be it unwanted or not,pregnancy is pregnancy and I look forward to a future where every pregnancy is wanted, where every child is special and human lives are valued more than culture, religion and any faction.

Super Sex And Sex Education

This is a discussion between a mother and daughter!



A Girl asked her mother: What is sex?

Mother replied: Sex is when you stop a car driven by a man who offers you a meal in a restaurant, and then you spend some time with him in the hotel room, sleep with him once, and then each one go on his way and you have a hundred dollars bill extra in your pocket.

Girl; Mum what is super sex?

Mum replies; Super sex is when you stop a limousine driven by Chauffeur and a stylish man is sitting in the back who takes you to a luxurious villa, gives you a sumptuous meal with distinctive Caviar...and then you spend the night together in bed and engage in sex more than once, and then you part with an envelope containing a thousand dollars in your pocket.

And then the girl asks her mother: What is love?

Mother replies: Love is a lie invented by men so that they can have sex with you for FREE!

Now here, this is meant to be a joke because honestly am still wondering the kind of mother that would advice her daughter like this, except Mama G in a Nigerian Movie which usually back fires. Nollywood, i celebrate your team and am proudly Nigeria.

Now am going to be taking on sex education and that is why i had to introduce it in a very funny way anyway. Most Nigerian Parents hide away from this particular topic but the amazing thing about sex is that if you don't talk to your child about it,someone else or something else surely will. As these young minds grow and trust you as a mum or dad,anything and everything you say becomes final which will make it impossible for them to make way for all the trash online. Remember they have friends in school and funny enough you cannot always be there.


Sadly, most Nigerian teenagers and adolescents have grown with this mind set and barely believing there is anything in the world like love.. Love has become what can you give me and no more how much impact can i make in your life. Ask the girl dating the richest man if she is truly happy and let her tell you the story of her life and how much pain she has to bear,how much lies she tells to cover her so called integrity. Money solves a lot of problems in Marriage but doesn't solve ALL problems in Marriage. Its not about the free sex after all you get the same result at the end of the game. The problem is he who knows does not speak and he who speaks does not know...Parents, what are you doing on sex education!!!

Don't tell your teen a condom is socks or your daughter that when a man touches her she will get pregnant. that has drastically produced a higher number of lesbians than any other myth or lie in the world. Teach your child all and what they need to know,teach them to tell you the truth when they are abused as most young people face sexual abuse but don't share their story with anyone. Some even commit suicide and the story follow them to the grave. Make out time to discuss with them and give them a room to share all they are feeling. Let them tell you about their friends, this will help you access when there are danger signals.

Remember, Nobody is free until all are free. HIV and other viral infections are waving flags here and there searching for passengers. Unplanned pregnancy is not ruled out and is a topic for another day as it will make a whole blog of its own. Abortion is spreading large wings and the problem here is not the abortion but the fact that most of them are unsafe leading to infertility,death and chronic infections...Lets Watch it, Parents!

Ten Crazy Marriage Commandments!!!

Yea... lets roll but don't break the slate like the people of Israel did... you know what happened to them; don't you?

1. Marriages are made in heaven.
But so is thunder and lightning.

2.If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention
to every word you say, talk in your sleep. She hears it all.

3.Marriage is a large box of collected efforts --
and divorce maybe the evidence of what you contributed in your own box
if you don't sow the seeds of love..

4.Married life is maybe frustrating if you don't play your wing well.
In the first year of marriage,the man speaks and the woman listens.
In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

5.When some men opens the door of his car for his wife,
you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is
new or the wife is or the door is bad.

6.Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;
The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

7.Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say.
After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.

8.Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding,
economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

9.Marriage and love are purely a matter of chemistry.
That is why one treats the other like the PH neutral value or toxic waste.

10.A man is incomplete until he is married.
After that, he is either made complete or he is finished...!!!

What Is Your Life Purpose?

What is your Life Purpose?

Is it ;



To know God more each passing day of my life...

to live in love, friendship and happiness

to spend money that could change lives

to be the reason many families of the world have food

to solve all your financial problems

to give happiness those you love

to possess a beautiful, big house for yourself

to travel, to take vacations

to start an amusing, absorbing hobby

to start a new business which is very successful

to buy a business which brings in a lot of money

to see those that you love succeed

to make new friends and develop new relationships

to get married and to have a family

to have more control and more optimism in your life

to bring good fortune to those that you love

to discover the ‘true love’ of your life

to marry a rich and influential person

to become someone famous and touch lives

to appear on television and ride the most expensive cars

to see your children get good grades

to have more good luck in your life

to succeed in everything that you undertake

to inspire those who are hopeless to hold on

to command respect that you should earn…


What ever you choose to become,
starts from the mind and what matters most is your ability to 

discover your life purpose and pursue it.
Remember, you only live once,
but if you lived well,Just once is more than enough!

Letter to Future Husband...

Hi Beautiful Fans,
I am actually reblogging this from a friend of mine and that is because i found it very interesting. I read it a couple of times and i am yet to stop giggling. I think because am igbo it will read thus;


Dim Oma,
Its with tears I am writing this to you. I am writing this after series of heartaches and pain. Each time I meet someone, I mistake him for 'YOU'. It seems all sweet at first and then 'POW', the scales fall of my eyes and I realize this can never be YOU!
You'll never leave me broken, NO, you love me too much for that. You see through me and appreciate my shower of love and respect for you.
You won't treat me like those selfish jerks who dish out the very thing they wouldn't take!
Ezigbo dim, I don't know exactly what you look like, but I know that you radiate sweetness, you appreciate the extremely good heart I have which has been stretched, broken and shredded by the people who deceived me into thinking they were YOU!
If only you know Nkem, if only you know how I wish you were here with me now. I wish you could pull me out of this emotional bondage. You do not know how painful it feels to be rejected.
I have faced enough rejection. Enough to last me a life time. It depresses me so much, I start to cry and wonder if it isn't best to remain single. But despite my travail, I still have space to think of you and the joy you'll bring me when I finally meet you.
Life is full of selfish people, I know that for sure. But I know you are not selfish because somewhere in your tiny heart, you are thinking of me too and wondering when I would come.
I know our children would be very beautiful and brilliant (from my genes)but if you are cute and intelligent too, then we'll produce geniuses!
I just want to let you know a few more things about me. I am chubby (a size 14) because I binge when I am sad,though I plan to start working out soon. I am dark, I am not after the bleaching craze, I am extremely loving and romantic, I would gladly spend my last dime just to see you smile as that would make me smile too. I am the most selfless person you would ever know. I don't like arguments, they break me. And I can't keep malice or bear to see us unhappy because of a flimsy quarrel.
I hope you like home cooked meal, because I absolutely love cooking and I hope you start learning how to dote on a woman because I love attention.
I do not ask for much financially, just be comfortable and show me you have prospects and we'll click cos I'm a home builder and I wouldn't mind extra motivation from you.
Let me stop here darling. It's one of those nights, I am broken, my eyes are running, my nose is blocked, my heart is heavy. But I am here, waiting for sleep to come and praying that in my dream tonight, I'll see you and you'll tell me precisely when you are coming.


Your patient wifey....

What Really Matters....

Yes!!! Take it or leave it but Twenty years from now it won’t really matter what shoes you wore today,

How your hair looked, or what brand of jeans and bags you bought.

What will matter is how you loved, what you learned and how you applied this knowledge.

What books you read and all you learnt from all your relationships with people.

What you placed as your values and what you tagged to count important.

Take full responsibility for your goals.

If you really want good things in your life to happen, you have to make them happen yourself.

You can’t sit around and hope that somebody else will help you; you have to make your own future.

Don't think that your destiny is tied to the actions and choices of others.

Know your worth.

When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options.

Kindly help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation.

Give them a reason to see the wisdom in you and default for placing you wrongly.

Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do.

Sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you.

It’s not pride – it’s self-respect.

Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people.

Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life.

Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.

You are the CEO of your life.

NOW AM 20 SOMETHING.....

Now am 20 something,
I know my values and ethics,
I know that time is more precious than all.
Now am 20 something,
I am familiar with technology and the atlas,
I am not a slave to social caricature.

Now am 20 something,
I know what is wrong and right,
I think the most, listen more and talk less.
Now am 20 something,
I watch to learn not just to laugh,
I am responsible for all my actions.

Now am 20 something,
I know my purpose and mission,
I know my calling and vision.
Now am 20 something,
Am reading all i need to grow,
Am studying all i need to blow.

Now am 20 something,
I have twitter, facebook, skype and more,
I have books,brain and i blend.
Now am 20 something
I have the swag to play safe,
I know that wisdom makes the difference..

Now am 20 something,
I need a man not a boy,
I need a woman not a girl.
Now am 20 something,
I respect my parents and look forward to being one,
I honor Karma for all the opportunities to serve.




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A MAN....A LION, NOT A CAT.

Built with the strongest of all ever known and ever striving to be relevant and in-charge, a man is not like every other usual creature in the fields but was made tall,strong, absorbent and to be in control. A man was built raw,strong and tick from the scratch in the image of the supreme being to be the protector of the realm.
A man is that person that takes charge, that person that protects, provides and promotes, who stays and doesn't run away from his home in times of turmoil or disappears from his responsibilities. A man assimilates, tolerates and even accommodates the most unusual characters and faces the fiercest battles without thinking of the risks involved which may include his life.

A man is that ever flowing fountain of wisdom that says little but does much when is time for action. He is that physical figure that walks hand in hand with the metaphysical forces of knowledge as he is expected to be a mentor and a tutor to transit the knowledge to people around him and many generations to come.  A man that knows nothing always have nothing to offer. A man not only flow with wisdom but radiates with graceful understanding and is the only being with an understanding of time.  He knows that there is time for everything and is not fooling around with things that doesn't count, matter or add value to his in passing life.

A man is that expert with the ability of hiding emotions but will cry helplessly inside, with the special gift of claiming not to care, but deep down he does. He is that Boy that wants a toy gun not a barbie doll but when he is wiser, he wants a real woman and not a toy gun anymore. He gives love to his wife with all he is and is her Romeo all way round. He fights for his love, radiates when he has sex before breakfast then frowns when he is hungry. He can be a soldier,a doctor or into any profession but does not raise his hands on his woman.
Real men know its not about fathering a child but being a daddy and stays up to nurse his kids. He does not think shallow but meditates on every content before making conclusions.

A real man knows that he came from somewhere and stays connected to his source. He doesn't shy away from his roles and duties like the cat but embraces it like a Lion and with fate, faith and honor knowing he is not alone. A lion defends, provides and protects his own and people around him with pride and confidence. A man is one person you can trust but not all men can be termed ''A MAN'',
but in due season every man  should stand up and be a man as A MAN IS A LION,not a cat.....

A WOMAN...MORE PRECIOUS THAN GOLD.

Created with the finest of materials and embedded with the greatest of Grace; a woman is not just a product made from an ordinary source but was selected, purified, blessed and chosen by the most high God.

A woman was separated, highlighted, dedicated and consecrated to God not because of her beauty but because of her worth, because she is special. Every home, society, sector, fraction, fashion or session begins with a woman. Every soldier, leader, ruler, king, mayor, emperor and even slaves was born by a woman. Being born by a woman is a mark that makes every human being equal and unquestionably the same as long as you are not an alien. A woman cries, weeps, bleeds, smiles, laughs and enjoys every moment of her life. Through the storms, rain and all turmoil of life, a real woman holds on firm.

Like Gold, a woman is born crude and refined. With her future untold and unknown, she moves into the society with only God on her side, she gets to discover her talents and potentials then explores them gradually. She walks through the walls of life trying to make a difference and moves ahead of all the heartbreaks, aches, abuse and all disappointments. Then she goes through the fire and refines into the most beautiful priceless jewel. She is durable, reliable, pure, attractive, inspiring, motivating, captivating and graceful. The words of a woman, soothes and heals all wounds, her smiles gives hope and her touch brings life to every death situation.

When is time for her to love, she loves with all in her; she has no choice. She walks down the aisle with faith ever ready to embrace all that faith brings. She is ever ready to be a supportive and wonderful wife. She is kind to new family, devoted to her husband and sacrificing to her children. Her wisdom cannot be measured but can only be treasured.

A woman is that person that lights up our world, she embraces us with love and peace, turns that sad moment into a celebration. Every man here has a wife, a sister, an aunt, a mother, a daughter or a friend therefore every man is blessed with a woman. If you are a woman here and you don’t have these qualities please check it and retrace your steps, a woman is meant to be a blessing not a curse. If you are blessed here and I am talking about you today, wave your hands into the air.

A woman is a precious being. She is not silver; 
she is not diamond, platinum, sapphire, onyx or Gold. 
She is worth more than every precious stone known to exist. 
She is more precious than GOLD.

DAD MEANS A TRUE KING

From mum's nauseous mornings,
To those her unusual cravings.
From the sleepless nights of fever,
To the rainy show of contractions.
Dad remained my First love and Hero,
Dad has never changed.

From those nights i cried in my cradle,
To the beautiful mornings i smiled at him.
From those moments i shared his meals,
To my early years i got extra sweets.
Dad : Is not a title for every father,
Dad : A title for a true King and Hero.

From the school days to and fro,
Bouncing appointments just to pick me up.
From the teen crazy days i felt i was right,
Trying everything new because i didn't know right,
Dad counselled and reprimand me in love,
Dad had answers to all my questions and fears.












From the beautiful day i walk down the aisle,
To that faithful day my own child i hold.
From the books and memories we shared,
To the very day i look into your old face.
Dad's words will still shape my world,
Dad's footprints can never fade away.


To My Dad; the one man whose words of wisdom and encouragement made
me the Ideal woman i am today and to all the Great Dads all over the world.
''Hoping you all reap what you sowed in the life of your
children and that your labor shall never be in vain''
I Salute and Hail you all !!!

HAPPY FATHERS' DAY!

IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU

DO YOU KNOW THAT;

• YOU ARE SPECIAL.

• YOU CAN NEVER BE SOMEONE ELSE.

• YOU WERE BORN FOR A SEASON.

• YOU CAME FOR MANY REASONS.

• YOU ARE YOUR ONLY TYPE IN STOCK.

• YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE UNTIL YOU DECIDE TO.

• YOU HAVE A PURPOSE.

• YOU HAVE A MISSION.

• YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

• YOU CAN CHANGE A LIFE.

• YOU WERE NOT BORN BY ACCIDENT.

• YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU CHOOSE TO BE.

MOST IMPORTANTLY THERE CAN NEVER BE ANOTHER YOU.....

MAN....BEFORE YOU MARRY

A man is the most important part of marriage because he is the one that actually starts the process but the woman is as important as a man in the walls of marriage,but before you
marry;

1) YOU NEED TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE:
A man without a purpose is a man without a future,so you must be able to discover your purpose as a man. Now, as a man, what do you want to do or be in life. where are you going because if you don't know where you are going, every road you find yourself will definitely still lead you to no where. Be it a dream, a driving force a skill you need to learn or possibly a lesson well learnt,we all have a purpose on earth.
As a man, you must have a vision or else you have no hope. You must discover your purpose and pursue it with all the courage and might that dwells in you. If you have no Purpose then you cant protect a family as you may not be able to take care of one even if you are given one. You have a purpose, GO find it.

2) YOU DEFINITELY NEED A JOB:
A job is something i define as a platform that provides you a source of income while you fulfill your life purpose. A job creates an avenue for a man to have a genuine source of income and become a more responsible. yes the job could be a trade, a business, a skill or white collar job.A job gets you busy and focused and also tends to increase the respect you can get from women generally. these days education is not enough,a skill is an added advantage and actually needs to be considered. business skills inclusive. As a man you need to move with the world,get computer literate,familiarize with technology and move forward.

3) YOU MUST HAVE UNDERSTOOD WHAT IS IMPORTANT IN LIFE AND WHAT IS NOT:
Yes....i know this very point will raise controversy but the truth be told. Fidus fiddled while Rome burnt. A lot of young men out there are yet to understand the difference between Big Brother Africa and CNN, a book and a porn magazine,a seminar and a night club. Remember you are not getting any younger and you definitely need to start doing things right. Drop all those habits that has never fetched you something.learn some house chores too,it wont kill you to cook,clean and be prepared to assist the woman God will bless you with,both in the home,kitchen, bedroom and all the way round.Just become more home oriented.Put away childish things and prepare yourself to be a husband not a frog tasting waters.One bad effect of keeping many relationships is that you will always end up comparing and wondering which of the ladies is better and you will always find reasons to change your menu because you are unstable,so take a bold step. You are a lion not a cat.

4) YOU NEED A MENTOR NOT A GODFATHER:
This is not a political ground so you need more of a mentor than a godfather. A mentor is a person whose mistakes serves as your stepping stone for you to act better and produce a better result in your marriage but a god father is someone who lacks the ability to understand the difference between a servant and a friend and that is not what you need in your life. A mentor must not be your Pastor but a man whose marriage has gone through thick and thin but was not shaken,a happily married responsible man whose disposition is applauding.A mentor is a reader and a leader who encourages and admonishes when you do things wrong.
A snake begets a snake and same with a Lion,so what are you? A Snake or A Lion!

Just before you think i have forgotten,your relationship with God is very important since you will be leading a home and as such you need all the wisdom you can lay your hands on. If you think the journey will be easy then you may encounter the amputation of divorce and your life may never remain the same. Who prepares a war without been equipped so you need to Pray,meditate,Listen to God,acquire wisdom,read books,attend seminars,training's and also invest your money wisely.What you see is what you get and who you are will attract the partner you deserve.
Remember,The man you are today designs the children you raise tomorrow.

TIPS TO LOVING YOUR CHILD

1) TELL THEM ''I LOVE YOU''.
This doesn't just make your child feel special but also has a very special way of boosting their self esteem and enables the child to develop more trust and confidence in you as a parent. It also help remove any trace of ill feelings whenever you make a decision concerning them or maybe reprimand them for doing something wrong. Telling them you love them also encourages them to love their siblings,friends and everyone in general even you as mum or dad.

2) DO NOT DISPLAY DIRTY HABITS OR DISPOSITION TO YOUR CHILDREN.
These young minds learn faster than you think and i bet you they are bound to pick some up,if not all but some.you must drop all those bad habits before you become a parent as you need to bring up a responsible individual for the society.children don't pick these habits because they are weak but because they barely know what is wrong and what is right.teach them values and morals then let them know what counts and what doesn't.

3) REPRIMAND YOUR CHILD.
Whenever they break a rule,misbehave or do things wrong,please reprimand that child.This may just be a simple punishment.you also have to beat them sometimes but you don't have to hit anything on them.words can also be very nice and works like magic in the lives of young people. WORDS contain ROD so don't spare the rod and spoil the child. however its very important you let them know why they are been reprimanded so they don't repeat the same act. Make your corrections with love.

4) SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.
You must never be too busy for your child so always make out time to spend some quality time with them both at home and outdoor.This makes it possible for them to trust you and ask you some questions they may never get the right answers to,from anywhere else. They may probably share their experiences in school and with their peers while you listen and maybe counsel. Now as a parent you can get to discover their fears and encourage them as their hero.A parent,truly parents a child.

5)WATCH WHAT THEY WATCH.
Do not let your children grow up on just the television,cartoons are good i agree but try mixing that with quality educating books that will burst their faculty. As not all cartoons are good for them anyway and also check what they do in school as well by maybe visiting their teacher to find out if and where your child needs help.. though computers are great too but all those should never take the place of books.If they can stay late night to watch a movie then they can as well stay late night during the weekends reading a book as well.

6) DO NOT TEACH THEM VIOLENCE OR TO FIGHT.
Telling your child that fighting is the only way out of a misunderstanding is very wrong. You can raise a humble lion if you train them the right way and don't forget the pen is mightier than the sword.
Fighting means lack of training and self control which means as an adult this child may grow up to fight in the office or in the president's office.. Teach your children love,patience,respect,self control peace and tolerance.

7) COMMIT THEM TO GOD.
This is not just about praying for them but more like praying with them. Teach them about God,make them understand that without God there is no man. Let them understand that everything they have belongs to God as well, so don't teach them not to give or help people.Love and respect your spouse and you all should pray together. Teach them to fast,to pray,not to lie but stay focused. This builds that child to be a more productive person. Remember, a child that walks with God,never walks alone.


We were all boys and girls before we ever became men and women,so there is a child in everyone of us out there,Parenthood is a beautiful thing and Its not about saying am not a parent yet,the first step to being a good parent is getting married to a good spouse that will bring out the best in you and the children. Lets help raise all the children around us as every child should is your responsibility.
ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY FOR OUR CHILDREN. WISHING YOU A HAPPY CHILDREN'S DAY.

WHEN THERE IS AN STD

Sexual Transmitted Disease is a slug that eats up at least 5 in every 10 sexually active young person in Nigeria and that is why there are lots of national,state,local government and non governmental programs going on in the country in order to protect and preserve the lives and future every young person in Nigeria.

Sexual Transmitted Diseases are those disease infection that are transferred from one person to another during vaginal,oral or anal sexual intercourse. It could be viral,bacterial,fungal, protozoa or parasitic.of course we are all familiar with HIV,syphilis,herpes simplex,human papillomavirus,pubic lice,

gonorrhea,candidasis,chancroid,chlamydia,viral hepatitis etc. Now note that some can be permanently cured while the viral ones which includes HIV, viral hepatitis, HPV, herpes can only be managed and controlled. Infections have signs and different symptoms but visiting your doctor at least twice a year will save you a lot of stress. Its no longer new these infections can be transmitted through unprotected sexual intercourse,by blood, saliva or breast milk, but when things go bad,what are the basic things you need to do for you to live a healthy free and fulfilled life as been infected is not a death sentence but a new beginning to a more healthier happy life.......

1. TAKE NOTE OF YOUR BODY CHANGES; as a female do you have an unusual discharge with a foul smell,abnormal periods,lower abdominal pain or aches,itching or sores that may be painful or just seem harmless. now as a male do you have abnormal growths or sores,itching,blood in urine or semen.Females do you have unusual discharges,unusual bleeding,lower abdominal pains,sores or ulcers but generally it may also include oral thrush or sore gums due to oral sex but that depends on the type of infection.

2. SELF MEDICATION;once it is sexual transmitted infection,self medication or taking drugs without  doctors advice is the worst thing to do.please you should not take or rub any type of drug except you have seen a doctor. Certain hypothesis needs to be confirmed before drugs can be administered to you.

3. SEE A PROFESSIONAL DOCTOR; I added professional before the doctor for you to understand that a chemist is not a doctor,most definitely you will be sent for tests to confirm what is exactly wrong with you. Remember to tell the doctor nothing but the whole truth,hiding your health problem from a doctor is a sure way of signing your death warrant as whatever information you provide is exactly what you will be treated with. The more honest the better and PLEASE Don't visit a chemist telling him to give you just any antibiotics,that is drug abuse.

4.GET TESTED; Run your tests as that will confirm exactly what is wrong and that is where your healing begins,as a test should reveal what is wrong and also in very good hospital reveal the drugs that you may be reactive to. A test maybe really hard for some people especially HIV,but you have nothing to fear,its just and only a test not a death sentence.

5.ALL OF IT;Take your drugs exactly as it was instructed,missing any part of the drugs has a away of causing you microbial resistance tendencies making it possible for the drug not to work. Remember a good meal will help the effectiveness of the drug so don't take any drug on an empty stomach except its a directive from the doctor. Its best for you to set alarm,take them along always,just to make sure you don't ever forget to send them down there. 

6. ITS THE BEST TIME TO ABSTAIN; When you are on treatment for any form of STD is the best time to sexually abstain,this helps your healing but if you think body nobi firewood,abeg i take God beg you,use a condom. Having unprotected sex increases your chances of reinfection or even infecting

someone else but most importantly get your partner to go for treatment as well. if your partner doesn't then its just as good as you have never been treated since you have the chances of falling into the same trap again.

7. REDUCE TO THE LOWEST TERM; Make up your mind to Drastically reduce the number of your sexual partners once you are treated. remember it doesn't make sense treating yourself and still engaging in risky behaviors,its better to have just one faithful partner with protected sex but best to  abstain which is very possible. Don't forget having a viral STD means u will have to be placed on medication in most cases for life so could you Reduce the number to the lowest term which could be one or better still, zero.

Having an STD is not a death sentence. However, not all of them are only gotten from just unprotected sex. They can also be gotten from poor personal hygiene like sharing towels,inner wears,toothbrushes,unclean toilet,blood transfusion,sharing sharp objects and then mother to child transmission during pregnancy,childbirth or breastfeeding. this means improving on our personal hygiene also plays a very important role in your staying healthy and happy.

YOU!!! BEFORE YOU SLEEP

1 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH ANGER

Anger they say is a small madness,and to think that you can sleep with anger is one very tough battle for anyone that has tried it. you never know how much pressure you subject your heart to,which could lead to a heart attack or cardiac arrest. you can 

actually sort whatever fumed you day by doing the opposite of what you are doing. mix up with good friends that cheer you up,watch a funny movie,read a good book or better still try sorting it out. your sweet dreams should not be full of bad depressive thoughts.

2 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH PHONES

Leaving the phone on your bed,under your pillow or anywhere near you is not just advisable as phones emit electromagnetic radiation though in small quantity but should not be encouraged.its usual to see some people that use their phones as alarm clocks,but please put the phone as far as possible,maybe on a table. These electromagnetic waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system. however if you have to keep your phone on your bed,try to switch it off.

3 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH CONTACT LENS

The eye is one of most sensitive and important part of the human body. Sleeping with your 

contact lens harbors dirt and bacteria especially those that are not designed to be worn at night. 

This also affects the cornea and causes swelling of the eyelids, redness of the eye and 

keratitis,a contact lens infection.please save yourself the blindness by removing your contact 

lenses,we know your eyes may be of no value but your family members will have to give up 

their personal assignments to take care of you as a blind Bartiamus. 

4 – DO NOT SLEEP WITH A WRIST WATCH

Sleeping with a wrist watch or any other wrist jewelry has an adverse effect in your 

circulatory system,which affects the rate and level of blood flow. the absence of blood 

flow brings about blood clotting or even in worst cases seizures.its best you avoid 

anything that will block your blood flow as that can be dangerous to your health.

Wrist watches also emit small radiation that affect the health of the humans.

5- DO NOT SLEEP WITH A BAD ROOM TEMPERATURE.

The Room temperature plays a very important role in our sleep as the hotness and 

coldness of the room determines how well we sleep all through the night or how 

healthy we wake up the next day. sleeping in a very cold room is harmful just 

as sleeping in a very hot or not well ventilated room. However,the weather can change 

but we should be able to cross all 't's and dot all 'i's in order to avoid cold or meningitis. 

6- DO NOT SLEEP WEARING BRA OR TIGHT PANTS

I really wonder how some folks feel very comfortable sleeping with tight pants and bra on.this is not just about the girls,even the men some wear tight boxers,shorts or pants to bed. 

Those organs up there and down there deserves some fresh air you know,and the effect of those tight things on your circulatory system cannot be over emphasized as it disrupts blood flow and causes uneasiness during your sleep. sure you what they say,that every part of the body needs some fresh air to increase effectiveness, so set them free.

7- DO NOT SLEEP WITH SOMEONE'S PROPERTY

There are some unimaginable circumstances that can be mind blowing. do not sleep with someones wife o husband and the issue is this,you cant tell what happens in hours. Remember you don't hold tomorrow as you may sleep and never wake up again and what happens to your body may be unheard of which may not just be too good for your image. you can never trust human beings,your body may actually end up in the trash. Everybody,please take note.

8- DO NOT SLEEP WEARING EAR PHONES

All these super stars and super divas like me that love ear phones,sure anybody that knows me well will always link me to an earphone.when you wake up in the morning,you can listen to all the songs that you want till evening but once its time for you to sleep,please try to unplug and use the normal speakers as you may be playing scramble with your ear drums,and i bet you the earphone will surely win. I sure wont enjoying seeing you in that state,or would you rather use a hearing aid.that may sure look good on you i bet. 

9- DO NOT SLEEP WITH CANDLES ON

Leaving candles on,be it scented or unscented is one of the most dangerous things people do to show some kind of love,i don't know how they do it oh but i am telling you that the result could be roasted meat and a smoky smell instead of the lavender or jasmine fragrance that was expected. An ignited candle is fire,nobody plays with fire,so when you have scented your room for all your use,please extinguish it well. 

10- DO NOT SLEEP WEARING MAKE UP

People who sleep with make up end up having some funny skin issues

after a while as Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also find it a bit difficult to fall asleep because your skin will feel sticky and heavy. using a moist face whips wont be a bad idea in case you don't want to shower and pour water on your face so you can save your false eye lashes.(i know the feeling). 

11-  DO NOT SLEEP WITHOUT HAVING A SHOWER

A shower and most especially a cold shower is usually a great source of relief after a long rough day. Having a bath helps to rejuvenate the body system and calm the nerves after all the tussles. Its true that sometimes we all get tired and worn out to even have a bath but its usually your first level of healing and a great way to start you sleep,as the whole body is relaxed and of course all the body cells,systems,tissues and mechanisms returns to a neutral state making it easier for you to fall asleep.

12-  DO NOT SLEEP IN A NOISY ROOM

Staying in a noisy environment increases your adrenaline level and streamlines anxiety in every part of your system how much more sleeping in a noisy room. the tension,the distractions and of course the restlessness all draw to the conclusion that you may end up with a headache or insomnia.Try leaving the present room to another one. Sleep is one very expensive vaccine that is for free,don't trade it for anything else except when you need to work and get things done,then you can always sleep all you can later. 

this article was not written as a licence for people to wake up and go back to bed then say Zara said so. it was written as a bill to a healthy positive living to help you improve well enough to function better and to teach you about some crazy things we do daily that are harmful to our health,so i hope you learnt a thing or two. Remember,Sleep is to the Body as Work is to the body too. Adios

WOMAN!!!! BEFORE YOU MARRY

The dream of every sane woman is to sit on a white horse beside her charming prince from a foreign land on a beautiful trip of marriage with enough luxury and comfort that will make everyone around her envious. She wants an engagement party on a beach,a bridal shower in Paris,a wedding party at the Barbados,honeymoon in the best Kenyan Resort,if not a one month world tour.
However, soon after the dotted lines are signed,the honeymoon is over and the wedding gown sits on a hanger or maybe the bottom of her box, they tend to realize that marriage is far from the bed of roses they thought it would be. For many, it is a ride to hell,while to others its just a slow,sweet,solemn journey that deserves nothing else but the very best of commitment and understanding.
In spite of the challenges associated with getting married, there are a few wisdom nuggets every spinster should have at the back of her mind before saying ‘I do’. They will help moderate your expectations and give a guide on how to wriggle out of sticky situations that may want to blow ur mind out of the normal.

1. GET INTO THE FIELD.
A lot of women are stuck in bad marriages simply because they do not have a valid way to support themselves or their children should they walk away or seek a divorce.

Get an education if you can or learn a trade and pursue a career that interests and challenges you. Know how to handle your finances, earn money on your own terms and only accumulate as little debt as you can realistically handle. you sure don't need to buy all the designer dresses,hair,bags and shoes then walk down the street looking like a sexy debtor,with no source of income. Don’t expect your parents or partners to bail you out of financial trouble. Learn to be your own financial hero. if you always buy things you don't need,soon you may have to sell the things you need to buy the things you want. Remember you should be a plan ''B'' in case your partner falls ill,loses his job or something bad happens, You need to be able to financially stand on your two feet as supportive wife.

2. READY 'STEADY' COOK.
That old saying which goes ‘the road to a man’s heart is through his stomach’ is absolutely true.
A man is one person that sees love,care and attention in the quality of food you serve him,not because food is all he desires,but as a result of the fact that a good plate of food makes a difference in the life of a tired,hungry man.you don't learn how to cook by been the best customer of any eatery. you cant learn how to cook if you don't cook constantly as you can always correct your past mistake in the next one.there is no quarrel a hot plate of pounded yam and oha soup or any food that pleases his heart,cannot settle,once you put your heart to it. Therefore,If you are not such a great cook, you can learn by going to a cookery school or getting a trusted friend to teach you.

3. KNOW WHEN TO KEEP QUIET.
Nobody in the world wins every battle especially when you are right and he’s wrong. Sometimes, he might just want to be stubborn or maybe he had a rough day at work and he wants to use that opportunity to transfer aggression or prove ‘he is a man. Let it go! there is no man that likes to argue blindly with his woman,like seriously. sometimes keeping quiet puts him on the edge to even ask if you are fine.you don't need to argue,to get angry and exhausted,to hit your palm on the table or even yell at him for you to win an argument. Remember,you may win the argument and lose that man. The solution to some of the challenges we experience are in simply staying calm and letting go.

4. WHO IS YOUR MENTOR?
Albert Einstein said that If you cant explain it to a 5 year old,then you don't know it well enough. there is nobody in the world that doesn't know somebody as we all need advice every now and then. That is why everybody needs a mentor. She does not have to be your pastor or your boss at work as even your Pastor looks up to someone, somewhere. She could just be a woman who is older and more experienced than you and has an evidently great and successful marriage. you cant possibly expect a good advice from a divorced bitter woman that will tell you that all men are the same.

Your mentor is someone who you can count on not to lead you astray. But always remember to think through whatever advice you are given; if it does not match the teachings in the right moral and spritiual norms,please run for your life. A wounded dog is indeed better than a dead lion

Finally read books,not just any book but good books that teach you more than you already know. They will expand your mind and build up your self esteem,driving you through a better view of every aspect of life in general. A home without books is like a soul without a body.
The book is to the mind what the sword is to the wet stone.