TELL THEM THE TRUTH .......

Am on my way…..but you haven’t had your bath.

Am in Lagos right now……but you are in Abuja.

I don’t have a boyfriend……but you are engaged.

I need a serious girlfriend……but you are married.

I went to Dubai last week……but you've never boarded a flight.

We only eat rice in my house……but you barely feed trice a day.

My son schooled  in Harvard……but you know its not true.

All these and more are the common lies both young and old tell their friends, family and well wishers every now and then. Sure, honesty is very expensive and you don’t expect it from cheap people.

Lying means deceit, falsehood, voluntary error or a deliberate untruth. People tell all sorts of lies daily and defend them and here are the few reasons why people lie. People lie in defense, to protect other lies, to manipulate other people, to win a prize or title, for power, to cheat or for self gratification.

Honesty is the best policy as Lying has a lot of physical, mental and spiritual adverse effects. It puts anyone into psychological instability, spiritual deformation and can be a mental hazard to the general well being which could lead to minor health issues like headache, sore throat, mood swing, depression and of course, increases the level of the dreaded stress or fatigue.

An average human lies at least eleven times in seven days and with the fact that a lie gives branches to other lies, it hereby increases the heart rate, tension and blood pressure rapidly. For instance, you planned telling your boss a lie this morning, and you walk into his office, told him the false outcome of that meeting and then he throws you a question. Instead of giving him an answer, your pulse increases, you are tensed up already, you can hear your heart beat and you feel so uneasy. Your sweat glands become hyper reactive and at sometime it feels like you are going to faint……..

wawoooh!!!! you need to STOP LYING…..

The very first step to reducing your lying skills is to first make up your mind on a personal ground that you have decided to be honest, to anyone no matter how sad thing turn out to be, hereby by cutting down your lying skills drastically yet gradually. This is a decision you alone can make for yourself; you and no one else. Then you must try as much as possible to mingle only with people who encourage you to tell the truth at all times.  With the wrong company and associates you can only get worse and you must believe me that lying robs you of your inner peace of mind.

Live a positive life, stand for what is right and don’t let the world stop you. Believe it or not, you can be honest, you can be faithful, you can be joyful, peaceful and of course you can make a difference. 

Anything is possible if you remove the ‘T’ and say I CAN, so when next you want to speak to anyone, be it your spouse, family, friend ,colleague or just anyone, just multiply the ‘T’ by four and TELL THEM THE TRUTH………..

The Difference Between A Boy And A Man

A BOY keeps a password on his cellphone  While a MAN is confident enough to say "Baby can u answer that for me"!! A BOY runs the streets & chill with his friends While a MAN is enjoying time with his woman planning ahead for their future!   A BOY complains about spending too much time with his woman,A MAN plans vacations & getaways because he is wise enough to notice tomorrow isn't promised! A BOY has pride after arguments A MAN has heart & emotions. A BOY beats on his woman, A MAN massages & caresses his woman! A BOY will Tell his friends and people how BAD his Woman is, A MAN will say nice things About his Woman because he knows NOBODY is Perfect. A BOY tells his woman all the things she does wrong, A MAN acknowledges his woman's hard work and over look her errors! A BOY tells his woman she is sexy A MAN tells his woman she is beautiful! A BOY thinks all domestic jobs are for women, A MAN helps his Woman both at home and outside. A BOY thinks all the MEN who comment on a girl's PIX\write up is her Boyfriend but A MAN knows that a beautiful lady must have admirers and she can't date them. A BOY loves ABORTION,A MAN loves CHILDREN. A BOY envy his Woman, A MAN support his WOMAN. A BOY don't take care of his Woman but still want her to look GOOD, A MAN takes care of his Woman because he knows if he doesn't another MAN will do it. A BOY lie at all times, A MAN tells the TRUTH and Beg for forgiveness if Need be. A BOY is always fighting, A MAN makes PEACE. A BOY will read this & think this is about him, A MAN will read this & thoroughly acknowledge what he needs to fix in his relationship. ♥ Do you agree with this? send your comments,lets talk it through!

Six Steps To Achieving Your Set Goals

Write it down –The moment you write something down, it suddenly becomes alive. Outline your aspirations in a notebook and keep that notebook beside your bed so that you never forget. Remind yourself of your targets by placing ‘post-it’ notes in visible places. For example, if you are trying to lose weight or trying to get a job, you could stick a note on your computer screen reminding you to apply for jobs or a note on your mirror reminding you to exercise.

Stay focused – Set your eyes on your target and never lose focus. The moment you do, you become like a blind man struggling to find his way at night in the  popular  market. Distractions could come in the form of judgmental friends, annoying strangers, failure and even success. Believe it or not, if you meditate too much on failure or success, you may never move forward. Stay focused on your goal.

Manage your time wisely – Many of us wish there was more than 24 hours in a day because the day’s activities seem so overwhelming. The best way to overcome this feeling is to plan your day ahead of time. Write down what you intend to accomplish that day and try to stick with it. Remember, procrastination is a dream killer. Do not procrastinate.


Break your dream into smaller goals – To make your dream more achievable, break it into smaller pieces. For instance, let’s say you plan to start a company and you have calculated that it might take you two to five years to become an established brand, break it down into months. Outline what you could accomplish or what skills you could obtain in one month that would enable you reach your dream.

Change your lifestyle or your friends – Get rid of any extra baggage that may prevent you from realizing your goals. An unhealthy lifestyle of drugs, sex and alcohol will not get you very far;  it might even kill you before you begin. Liberate yourself from the bad influences and blabbermouths you call your friends (if that’s what they are). They are a pessimistic lot and would surely discourage you from achieving your aspirations.

Reward yourself – Anytime you achieve your main goal or a part of it, reward yourself. Take a day off and go out with friends, watch a movie, go shopping or just stay indoors and make yourself a special meal. It will boost your self esteem.

However, don’t stop there, keep going.............move forward

A Letter from God To Wives

Dear Daughter

I have sent you to a man's house to be a blessing to him and 'help' him achieve the goals I gave him. He's not like you at all. He's burly, quite insensitive. You'd be surprised he might not even realize you've come to help! So, to help your task and protect you from being on the receiving end of his imperfections here are some vital instructions.

1. Don't ever try to fix him, if he ever develops a fault, I'm his manufacturer and you will need to talk to me about him. You're his wife, not his God. I don't particularly like it when you think you can change him and you attempt to take my place.

2. Well, I'm your God too, but your husband is my deputy in your life. To get the best of him, you need to respect him like you do me. Get more instructions on this from your grandmother Sarah.

3. You will realize that he fumbles in many things. I know you're smart but resist the urge to get in front of him and take charge of things except he tells you to.

4. He's a man of God but he's still a man. Remember an hungry man is an angry man whether the hunger is for food or sex.  Don't you ever play politics with him on those issues.

5. He likes competing and winning, that's why he's crazy about sports. But there's an area he doesn't mind you being better- character! So take advantage, be a better lover, more humble, more patient, more virtuous.

6. He enjoys attractive help mates, quite more than is good for him. As you get into helping him, don't forget to stay attractive as much as possible. I know its a tough task but I know you can do it, you're a woman after all.

I'd give you more instructions later but these are vitally important and can't wait. Whatever you face there, never forget why you're there. If you keep your eyes on the goal of being a blessing to him, sooner than later he will come to adore you. Remember, its a cord of three;me,you and your husband. Meanwhile, keep in touch with me in prayer. If you've ever needed my help you will certainly need it on this assignment!

With Everlasting Love,

God.

Board A New Ship Please!!!!

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Don’t be afraid of a New Relationship
Liken it to boarding a new Ship Exciting, new things to enjoy and explore.
Like Two walking together through a new open door.
Don’t shy away from a New Relationship.
The pain of the past needn’t make you quit In life, sometimes we get it wrong.
At other times, we find a bond so strong.
Don’t run away from a New Relationship.
Hold on tight, don’t lose a grip.
Let go of the past and move on.
Bask in the presence of your new Loved one.
Don’t give up on a New Relationship.
Invest, time, love and Romance in it.
So? You did it before, your partner didn’t care?
This is a New one, don’t be biased, be fair.
I was once afraid of a New Relationship..
Couldn’t get myself to relax one bit.
Always waiting for something to go wrong any minute And then,
 I could justify leaving it.
So, I plead, stay in your New Relationship.
Give it a chance to bloom.
Don’t quit!
Love, trust and support your Other Half Step by step.
May life lead you to Love’s blissful path.
Wishing you happiness as the water covers the sea.

Great Relationship Tips.............

Hello my beautiful people,here are some generalized tips on how to make good and lasting relationship.

Listen to your beloved.

Try to show tolerance and be open-minded. Avoid showing sarcasm and negativity.
In general, anything that can cause you a bad mood or her bad mood should be avoided.
You should learn to give as well as to take - to give or take is not the answer, only a combination of the two in equal measure.
Try to make your partner's parents like you. It is very important for both of you.
Learn to give unconditionally. To expect always something in return is the same as paying for something.
Avoid being too emotional in your everyday life. It can be especially applied to males. You will have to convince your beloved that you are strong; that you are self-confident; that you know what to do; and that she can rely on your emotional strength to be a help for her.
Kindness, understanding, trust and consideration are the keywords in relationships. If you are only trying to derive benefit from these relationships, forget about mutual understanding.
In every relationship it is important to be a good and reliable friend. If you are your beloved's understanding friend, she/he will be grateful and rewarding.
Don't let anyone treat you abusively. Demand respect.
If your relationships are established, you should carry on showing your beloved that you love and appreciate him/her. It is not difficult. You can do this by little things as buying flowers and small presents from time to time.
Beware of possessiveness and claiming behavior. Keep in mind that your partner is as independent as you are and should never be treated as an object or possession.
Don't let other people push your buttons. Otherwise you won't be able to make any decision by yourself.
Learn to adjourn your recompense through patience, trust and understanding.
Try to see your partner's point of view. Agree to disagree.
Respect your partner's space.
Wishing you the best of relationship and all the blessed rewards that comes with it.

IS IT THAT ............

Is it that the world is not large,
   Or that we have made it too small for us.
Is it that the truth is so hard,
   Or that we lift our ego so high.
Is it that our eyes are shut blind,
   Or that we chose to watch things fall apart.
Is it that the wise have gone dumb,
   Or that their words are blown in the air.
Is it that the good don't talk,
   Or that their raised voice is always their last.
Is it that power kills the conscience,
   Or that we trade our conscience for power.
Is it that our Chi is just silent,
   Or that we have not sat,to watch And pray.
Is it that the cost of peace is far fetched,
  Or that we prefer war that costs us all.
Is it that our hair And skin is black,
  Or that we don't even love ourselves; the black.
Is it that love has failed today,
  Or that most love for the silver,gold And all.
Is it that the child won't learn the norms,
  Or that we spare the Rod And spoil the Child.
Is it that the laws made are not kept,
  Or that the law makers bend to break the law.
Is it that true wisdom has seized to flow,
  Or that we don't see it And flow with it.
Is it that the change has refused to come,
Or that we don't see need to change ourselves.
 True wisdom is knowing you know nothing.
 The only time is now.
Make that change,now!!!

WHAT IF............

what if you slept And never woke up,
What if you had A  meal And it was your last,
What if you went on A  trip And never returned,
What if you never achieved your life purpose,
What if you never got married to anyone,
What if you got married to A  lousy spouse,
What if you are happily married but childless,
What if you were rich but unhappy,
What if you don't even know where you're going,
What if you were poor but full of wisdom,
What if you fought A  battle And never won,
What if you were told today was your very last,
What if you failed And had no second chance,
What if you were betrayed by the one you trust,
What if you watched your loved one die,
What if your only way was war,will you fight?
What if your last option was murder,will you kill?
Life is full of puzzles,sizzles And drizzles.
We make choices in every second.We risk options.
We risk And lose friends,family And a lot.
Now I  ask you,is your choice worth your loss.
If its worth it then choose And loose.
but every choice we make shapes our life