FROM A FATHER TO HIS SON ON MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

I culled this from a facebook friend,hope you learnt a thing or two.....

Welcome to Abuja...

Welcome to Abuja,
A city where everyone claims busy,
People leave their beds everyday.
To hustle, tozzle and buzzle,
To pay for the houses they don't even stay in.

Welcome to Abuja,
A city where most landlords are so idle,
They worship their investments jealously.
They keep increasing and increasing rents,
Not just the money but payments in kind alike.


Welcome to Abuja,
A city where the guys think every girl is a night queen,
Sleeping during the day and working all night.
The girls see all relationships as an employment opportunity,
Both are disappointed at the artifact they finally find.

Welcome to Abuja,
A city where home is safe but people won't stay home,
People are scared of traffic but they still drive through it.
They don't want to die of bomb blast,yet they wont stay home,
We all say Abuja is not safe, yet nobody wants to leave Abuja.

Happy Birthday To Me......

Yes!!!
I just added another year to my beautiful life.
I am very grateful to God that made it possible.
I may not have everything right now,
But i have all i need to be anything in life.
I am blessed with a family.
I am loved by friends, fans and foes (lol).
I am blessed with a job.
I still find the time to write.
I am not where i want to be but,
I am not where i used to be.
I have grown up, wised up and braced up.
I have had challenges and i conquered.
I have had good times and i am very grateful.
I have had proud times but i was made humble.
I have had great times but it made me nicer.
I have had trying times but i stooped to conquer.
I have a dad that dots me like a princess.
I have a mum that calls me her queen omalicha.
I have love, peace, joy and above all i have God.
My life has been a journey,a beautiful journey.
My life was not the same last year and am favored.
My life have made me to love, love and love again.
Life has taught me that love is not enough, love more.
Life has taught me that happiness means i should breathe....
Life has taught me that money can buy most things but not all.
That family is everything and the only thing left after all is gone.
That no matter the disappointment you face, there is an options.
That God does not design one person to help you but many others.
That the smile you made in the heart of others brings inner peace.
That some people are more important than others..there are VVIPs.
That appreciation and gratefulness bring you even more favor.
That money is for me to buy wisdom and make my loved ones happy.
My life at the silver age has been beautiful and wonderful...
I look forward to better days and happy days ahead.

Happy Birthday to Me....

Zango Kartaf Religious Crisis... Lessons learnt !!!

Religious conflicts all over the world has been a societal and environmental  issue as far back as 12 BC, but this man-made disaster still rings a bell and turns the head of everyone who hears about its occurrence in any part of the world. They have been many histories of war, violence, disputes and environmental conflicts in countries of different ethnic groups, culture, language and even religion even from the days of Greek and Roman deities like Zeus, Poseidon and even Athena which rolls back to thousands of years ago. From that time till date, stories and events of religious wars of superiority has been in existence and still occurs in many countries of the world which includes our very own Nigeria.

Nigeria is predominately made up of two religious groups which include the Christians and the Muslims ever since her amalgamation in 1914 and the both group are predominately found in the southern and northern regions respectively. Despite the religious differences, the both groups have since coexisted peacefully and this is the reason why you many Christians are seen living, schooling and doing businesses in the northern part of the country peacefully. Marriages have even been seen exist peacefully between the both different religious and children have been raised in love, humility and peace.

However, ever since the first religious outburst crisis in 1987 at the College of Education Kafanchan, in Kaduna state, no one has been at ease as most of the right thinking members of the society described the incident as ugly. This crisis soon spread to other parts of the state leading to the burning of places of worship, with many lives and properties worth millions lost.
When the situation got out of hand, the Army stepped in by declaring a dusk to dawn curfew with a shoot at sight order of any person or group of persons found perpetrating violence in any form or constituting nuisance. Life in Kaduna State returned to normal after about a week and most people believed that such a thing would not happen again being the first religious crisis ever in Northern Nigeria.
Without knowing that more was coming as there were more surprises, a similar crisis was recorded in 1992, in Zango Kataf which was believed to of be an ethnic dimension. The town of Zango-Kataf is an enclave of mainly Muslim Hausa-Fulanis in an area dominated by the mostly Christian Katafs. Although the tension between the two communities has been long-standing, in February 1992, riot broke out over a local government decision to move the market from a Hausa area to one dominated by Katafs. Sixty people were killed and properties were destroyed including residential houses, and cars owned by the both groups. As if all that was not enough, the last straw broke the camels back in May of the same year and the worst rioting broke out. This was reported to have occurred apparently after the Kataf attacked the Hausa community and the violence spread to Kaduna, where it was mainly directed by Hausa against Christians. Several churches were burned down and Christian ministers killed. The official death toll was 300 but unofficial estimates were as high as several thousand. In addition, Over 60,000 people abandoned their business and fled their homes to the nearby states for safety. 

The conflict in Zango-Kataf in southern Kaduna State illustrates the explosive mix of religious and ethnic rivalry, as well as the highly partial approach of the authorities which has succeeded in inflaming conflict. Neighbours killed neighbours and several children and women were badly affected aside the men who were slaughtered inflicting trauma and tension to all involved.

The official response to the violence was to arrest several hundred Katafs, most of whom were held without charge. Six prominent Katafs, including Major-General Zamani Lekwot, a former ambassador, were charged with complicity in the riots before a specially constituted Civil Disturbances Special Tribunal. The prosecution withdrew its case, but the accused were rearrested by security agents as they left the court.

By September 1991, they were charged again, with a total of 14 people being sentenced to death by two Civil Disturbances Tribunals, including Major-General Lekwot. The hearings had all the same defects as the tribunal which heard the case of Ken Saro-Wiwa and other Ogoni activists, since they were constituted under the same law. In this instance, the Government commuted the death sentences to five years' imprisonment.
Although another religious crisis which spread to other parts of the country was recorded in 1999, its impact was not as in depth as that of the Zango Kartaf 1991. Conflicts are known to exist but can also be avoided with a dialogue or mutual peaceful resolution instead of destroying lives and properties and also making children homeless and vulnerable.

Aside the ugly events of the Nigerian civil war, other conflicts like the Zango Kartaf, Aguleri/Umuleri, the Jos crisis and political riots from the masses have never changed the position of the government. This is because it is only the government that have a better understanding of the needs, issues and problems of the people and works day in and out to meet them. Patriotism is not dying for the nation or killing other people in the name of religion, patriotism is standing by the government and loving one another as religious conflicts can be settled with the love values every Nigerian religion represents.

Burying The Hatchet Of June 12....

Understanding the depth of every event in a nation, does not just help in retraining our misdemeanors but also takes a long train in giving us a clear picture of what needs to be done when the things fall apart. Crisis, issues and conflicts are bound to occur in every ecological habit, as a matter of fact even in the animal kingdom but it could also be avoided if we take time to think, think and think again. Wars, genocides, homicides and even manslaughter are events that have occurred repeatedly in countries, states, towns, villages and even in our domestic homes but just a pause for a moment gives the victims and perpetrators another chance. It gives us the chance to think, negotiate, resolve, appeal or let go of certain disputes that can’t be changed, controlled or reversed through the means of own human or government capacity.

The incidence of June 12 1993 rolling about 20 years ago still remains evergreen in our memory as Nigerians even to those who were and those who heard. Like a fresh wound to the effected, it still bleeds and the marks are still seen in every area of the democracy we practice today as a nation. From the planning, the campaign, the election, the result, the annulment by Gen Ibrahim Babangida, the protests, the riots, killings, arrests and change of power, all the events still stare us in the face. This also makes us accountable as a nation ever since that attempt to embrace democracy was thwarted.

Nigerians cannot sweep under the carpet the impact of June 12 in the democratic government and the politics we are plunged in today. That election was noted as the freest and fairest election since our independence by both local and international observers and it was also tagged the most successful and controversial election of all times till date in Nigeria. Why?

Aside the properties that were destroyed, lives that were lost and ethnic stigmatization and disparity in the minds of people who were most affected like Chief MKO Abiola. Many prominent Nigerians like Chief Alfred Rewane, Alhaja Kudirat Abiola, Gen. Shehu Yar’Adua, Bagauda Kalto, Suliat Adedeji and many others lost their lives while the Publisher of Guardian Newspaper, the late Chief Alex Ibru, and a leading member of the Afenifere socio-cultural organisation, Chief Abraham Adesanya, escaped assassination attempts by a whisker. Chief MKO Abiola died in prison prior to his release and the Properties lost, the businesses that were affected, and the poor Innocent Nigerians that were killed as a result of shot outs during the riots and protests cannot be accounted for. These crises also resulted in a shift of power from Gen. Babangida to Chief Shonekon and a coup by General Sani Abacha though bloodless but still an after math of the annulment of the June 12 election.

In as much as it is the duty of the government to protect the rights of the citizens of Nigeria, However, the motivation for this should not be tagged wholly on the poor governance experienced at that time but to all the wrong actions that were taken by some Nigerians citizens that resulted to a multiple chain reactions backfiring in an attempt to take laws into our hands. Though we have been able to bury the hatchet, aside the violence, murder, protests and attacks on innocent people, human rights were shattered and the victimised still heals.

The election crisis of June 12 1993, birth the 1999 democratic rule in Nigeria and the south west was given an opportunity to rule as compensation for the ciaos that occurred after the annulment. Although this was not enough as it would never make up for the lives lost, the rights dashed, the pain in the heart of the bereaved families and the properties destroyed but it also created a golden opportunity for good Nigerians to form the People Democratic Party (PDP),All Nigerians Peoples’ Party (ANPP) and  Alliance for Democracy (AD). Hereby bringing the American two party methods we adopted to an absolute end and we embracing a three or more parties democratic system in Nigeria.

Although many years have passed by and Nigeria may have healed from that traumatic experience ranging from the multiple killings, undeserved arrests, torture and human rights violation during the Abacha regime. In all these lapses, we arose stronger than the whole world expected and we still excel in all the world activities ranging from football, literature, entertainment and even politics. Yet truth be told, whatever the reason for the June 12 1993 election annulment was, the only one lasting solution to the dilemma would have just been a repeat of that election. We Nigerians should not subject our fellow Nigerians to misery and pain then expect love from other countries. We must love ourselves first and give resolution thinking to crisis and conflicts and this is because when there is a headache, a doctor is consulted; we don’t cut off our heads.

Chibok Girls...What Is Their Health Status?

Kidnapping is a menace in our present day society and although it is not an act Nigeria is proud of as a nation, several measures have been taken to cut out this virus from our country permanently. This human rights violation keeps rising by the day and has even spread to our secondary institutions causing environmental unrest in the school system to both the young students and the school teachers. This issue has become a cause for concern in Nigeria as a nation, and to our neighboring countries in West Africa such as Niger, Benin, Chad and Cameroun.

Just recently, its wings spread to Asia, Europe and even America raising even more concern as about 200 teenage girls were kidnapped from a secondary school in Chibok, a small town in Borno state, the North eastern part of Nigeria. This was done by a sect known as the boko haram which abhor western education especially for girls, stating they should get married instead of going to school. This mishap has gone viral in the past one month, with several Nigerian and international dignitaries airing their view about the human right and gender violation act. The press and social media platform has also lent their voice with the harsh tag #bringbackourgirls which attracted the attention of both Government of other countries and international celebrities. Thousands of concerned Nigerians have taken to the streets on protest in Nigeria and residents of other countries of the world seeking international help and actions.

Many Health organizations in and outside Nigeria, have raised an alarm on the health implications of letting the girls stay longer than they already have. This is because of the physical, social and mental/psychological health implications associated with kidnapping, especially a vulnerable group of young girls. These young girls have since been exposed to harsh weather conditions and other physical maltreatment including abuse and some other health conditions like...

ü Rape

ü Unplanned pregnancy

ü HIV and other sexually transmitted infections

ü Unsafe abortion

ü Early Motherhood

ü Visco vaginal fistula

ü Recto Vaginal Fistula

ü Shock

ü Psychological Trauma

ü Hallucinations

ü Bed Wetting

ü Nightmares

ü Genophobia

ü Sexual dysfunction

ü Low self esteem

ü Low self gratification

ü Violent behaviours

ü Urinary tract infection (UTI)

ü Pelvic Inflammatory diseases (PID)

ü Unwanted Media exposure

ü Pneumonia

ü Extreme introverted behaviours

ü Exposure to reptiles such as snakes and other creeping animals

ü Poor personal hygiene

ü Harsh weather conditions

ü Starvation

ü insecurity

ü Dehydration

ü Malaria

ü Typhoid

ü Meningitis

ü Tuberculosis

ü Social stigmatisation

ü Poor mental health

ü Poor patriotism

ü Fear

ü Anxiety

ü Prolonged unhappiness

ü Panic attacks

ü Poor health condition as a result of prolonged untreated illnesses



It should be noted that all these and many more unmentioned health conditions could arise a result of not taking care of these girls and the absence of a doctor’s attention. The Chibok girls have been through so much and will be needing proper medical attention, therapy and counselling once they have been released. They are young girls; young minds that must be saved from the entire trauma associated with what they have been through and all hands must be on deck to get this done. Their human rights have been violated and their gender sensitivity has been scattered, therefore all the doctors, counsellors, psychologist and all the people who work with Nigerian youths must get ready for the task ahead.

Love Is Forever...

I culled this from a friend and i had to share it on such a day as this to celebrate all the men working very hard to keep their marriages and relationships. It was scripted by a man going through a painful divorce and hard to learn love principles the hard way. Its a Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage.

My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers.

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3. Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7. Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8. Allow your woman to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9. Be silly… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10. Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11. Be present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12. Be willing to take her sexually, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13. Don’t be an idiot…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14. Give her space… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15. Be vulnerable… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16. Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17. Never stop growing together… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18. Don’t worry about money. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19. Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20. Always choose love. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn't about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

Then i hope you learnt a thing or two on keeping love forever. Though this does not apply to loving people who do not want to be with you. I am a serious anti abusive personality so be sure your relationship is worth the fight and struggle.

As you embark on your love journey, we hope to share in your love story...

Building Great Relationships That Last...

1. Don’t try to change him/her. Be with your desired mate because you love him or her as is, not who you think you can turn him/her into.

2. Trust your mate. Of course it’s easier said than done, especially if you have been cheated on in a past relationship. However, the person you are with now does not deserve that judgment. It’s a different person and it’s a different relationship. If you don’t trust your mate, you are going to have problems, period.

3. Be compatible when it comes to intimacy. If he is a touchy-feely kind of guy and you don’t like affection, well, that’s a problem. It won’t go away. It needs to be addressed early in the relationship, or it will become such a problem down the road, that he/she might seek intimacy from someone else. Intimacy also applies to emotions… do you have a problem expressing your feelings? Get over it. Don’t assume your mate knows how you feel at all times. Express your feelings and reciprocate when he/she says something intimate to you.

4. Make sure your mate is the one that brings out the best in you. Sure, she might be fine to look at, but are her morals in line with yours? Does she entice you to do things that make you feel uncomfortable? Does he encourage you to be rude and mean to others? An ideal mate will bring out the best in you and make you feel comfortable whether you are alone together or in public.
5. Talk nice. Don’t berate your partner in public, and also watch your tongue when you are in private. Do not show or express contempt, as it is the opposite of respect, and then that is gone, well, the relationship is over. If something your partner says or does pisses you off, do not react negatively. Wait to respond if you know you have a sharp tongue. Find a way to respond in a way that will diffuse the situation. The smallest argument can blow out of proportion and be the beginning of the end. The point is… communicate well. Don’t say, “That was stupid.” Go for something like, “I think you could have handled that a little better.”

6. Learn how to deal with conflict. Couples fight. It’s not going to always be peaches and cream. How you handle your disputes, however, can be the difference between a short marriage and a lifelong one. Attack the issue that has popped up, not your partner. Don’t become defensive and hurtful. Talk about it. Resolve it and move on. Don’t let hurt feelings boil inside and blow up one day out of the blue.

7. Face adversity or a challenge together, whether it’s aimed at just one of you or both of you as a couple. Say your partner is studying for the bar exam. As the test gets closer, relieve him/her of some of his/her chores so there is more time to study. Chances are, once the exam is over, your partner will do something special for you in appreciation.

8. Talk money. This is a very touchy subject. But it can be the death of even the most romantic of partnerships if you both don’t share the same values when it comes to finances. It simply has to be discussed.There are signs early in the relationship that will indicate a person’s spending habits. For example, does she only like designer shoes? Is he just as happy with a meaningful trinket as he is with an expensive gift? Are you going to handle your financial obligations as a team? Figure it out before you jump the broom.

Having a successful relationship is not always going to be easy. However, if you think ahead and follow these few guidelines, the rewards can be exceedingly generous and provide a lifetime of joy and happiness.

Culled from one guy that inspires me, Farrah Gray.

A Special Prayer For Husbands

Hello beautiful women out there,
I actually just wrote this and i was passionate enough to bring it here
for everyone to read.
Remember you don't have to be married to say the prayer as we all have special kind of prayers for that special man we want to live with.  You can pray for your future husband and you can as well pray for the man in your life. I hope you find it interesting......
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Dear God,
Today i pray specially for my Husband,

• That he will never labor in vain.
• That your hand shall continually be upon his life.
• That his blood will never spill on any road.
• That whatever he lay his hands to do shall excel and prosper.
• That  he will grow n grace and knowledge of God.
• That he will love God and respect him
• That he will put God first and me second in all he does.
• That he will walk in love and that the Glory of God will mantle him.
• That he will find peace and love in my arms.
• That he will find happiness in my eyes whenever he is sad.
• That he will keep friends that will inspire and lift him up.
• That he will have a mentor and not a Godfather.
• That he will command money, money shall not rule his life.
• That he will control wine, wine will not control him.
• That he will be the best in-laws to to my parents.
• That he will be a wonderful son to your parents.
• That he will be my head and love me like Christ loved the church.
• That he will be the man and priest in our home.
• That he will be an inspiration to me, our kids and others.
• That he will be so blessed and become a blessing to other people.
• That he will reign in the city,in the field and in our home.
• That he will learn to forgive yourself,me,and other people.
• That his love and presence will rule and reign in our  home where he is king.

Amen!!!

Love,

A Praying Wife.

I Don't Love You

I don't love you because of your color,
I don't love you because of your weight,
I don't love you because of your height,
I don't love you because of All i can see.

I don't love you because of your Fame,
I don't love you because of your family,
I don't love you because of your fashion,
I don't love you because of All that you are.

I don't love you because of your past or present,
I don't love you because of your future i know not,
I don't love you because of the riches that fail,
I don't love you because of All you could be.

I don't love you because you are smart or sweet,
I don't love you because of the love we share,
I don't love you because of all the peace you bring,
I don't love you because of All the senses can feel.

I love you because with you everything is fine,
I love you because you make me better each day,
I love you because you are all i ever prayed for,
I love you because with you, I believe i can fly...

Ten Differences Between A Girl And A Woman

There are times that all i do is wonder why some ladies don't grow up to become women and that is because most of them remain girls. Here are a few differences between girls and women.


1. Girls search for rich men while Woman concentrate

more on working to be a rich wife while searching for

caring and loving men.



2. Girls measure their men’s worth by

the size of his pocket; money matters

while Women measures their men’s

worth by their level of Wisdom and

the fear of God and how disciplined

they can be toward their finances.


3. Girls end relationships by breaking

up with silly excuses. Women have

endurance knowing that everything

happen for a reason

4.Girls thinks about the present

while Women think about the future.


5. Girls love to having many guys going after them.

Women know the law of demand

(Cheap things have high purchasers).

6. A Girl takes relationship affairs

outside while a Woman keep secrets

things secret.

7. Girls demand for money to buy make- up, airtime, bus fare.

Women demand for money to make plans.



8. Girls get hurt by one man and make

all men pay for it. Women know that

all men are not the same.

9. A girl is “learning”. A woman

“knows”.

10. Girls will read this and get an

attitude. A woman will just smile & share.

Celebrating Real Love This Valentine

I actually culled this from our very own Ikeji her herself and it states the 50 ways to show a relationship is a serious one. I hope you learn a thing or two  from here this valentine.

1. Meeting the parents
2. Exchanging house keys
3. Planning a holiday together
4. Discussing plans for the future
5. Being invited to family gatherings
6. Saying 'I love you'
7. Staying overnight at each other's houses
8. Signing Christmas / Birthday cards together
9. Seeing each other at least every other night

10. Leaving a toothbrush at each other's

11. You tell each other absolutely everything
12. Letting them take care of you when sick
13. Being introduced to wider friendships circles
14. Discussing how many children you might want in the future
15. Buying a dog or cat together
16. Driving each other's cars
17. Inviting them to a wedding as a date
18. Divulging salary details
19. Letting them know your pin number
20. Discussing holidays

21. Having a drawer at each other's house
22. When you HYPOTHETICALLY talk about IF you lived together
23. Inviting people round as a couple
24. Having clothes and other belongings at each other's houses
25. First name terms with their mum and dad
26. Talking about intimate health issues
27. Farting in front of each other
28. Inviting them out with your friends / family
29. Receiving cards or gifts addressed to both of you
30. When you know what each other's plans are for every single day

31. Showering together
32. Changing Facebook status to 'in a relationship'
33. You know each other's passwords
34. Wearing pyjamas when you get home from work
35. You share secrets about friends with each other
36. Always being the 'plus one' on invites
37. Getting food in your big shop just for them
38. You start watching TV shows they like
39. Phoning each other at work
40. Stop putting make up on to look gloriously fresh before they wake up



41. When they start asking for your opinion on stuff
42. Going out with friends or family without the partner being there
43. Signing off 'love' in a card
44. You start listening to music they like
45. You stop seeing people you know they don't like
46. Putting a photo of the two of you on Facebook
47. Sending good morning / goodnight texts
48. Having a pet name for each other
49. Telling each other how many sexual partners you've had
50. When all their friends add you on Facebook

The Shoe Box

Hello people,
I hope you enjoy this short story as i found it interesting as it really inspired me on how wonderful some women can be in keeping their marriages. Its titled The Shoe Box

A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared everything and kept no secrets from each other except that the little old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.
For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover.
In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside. She agreed that it was time that he should know what was in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack of money totaling $95,000.
He asked her about the contents.
'When we were to be married,' she said, ' my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.'
The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two Precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two Times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with Happiness.
'Honey,' he said, 'that explains the doll, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?'
'Oh,' she said, 'that's the money I made from selling the dolls.'

Living A Positive Life In 2014

HEALTH

Drink plenty of water.
Eat Breakfast like a king, Lunch like a prince & Dinner like a beggar.☑
Live with the 3 E's--
Energy,
Enthusiasm &
Empathy.☑

Make time to pray.☑
Play more games.☑
Read more books than you did in 2013.☑
Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.☑
Sleep for 7 hours.☑
Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily And while you walk, Smile.☑

PERSONALITY


Don't over do. Keep your limits.☑
Don't take yourself so seriously.No one else does.☑
Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.☑
Dream more while you are awake.☑
Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.☑
Forget issues of the past.Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past.That will ruin your present Happiness.☑
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.☑
Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.☑
No one is in charge of your happiness except you.☑
Smile and laugh more.☑
You don't have to win every argument,Agree to disagree.☑


SOCIETY

Call your family often.☑
Each day give something good to others.☑
Forgive everyone for everything.☑
Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.☑
Try to make at least three people smile each day.☑
What other people think of you is none of your business.☑


LIFE

Do the right thing!☑
GOD heals everything.☑
However good or bad a situation is, it will change.☑
No matter how you feel,Get up,Dress up and Show up. The best is yet to come.☑
When awake in the morning thank GOD for it.☑
Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy. ☑



Happy New Year and Wishing You Happy Days In 2014.

Loving The Bad Guy Turn Good

1. Stop nagging and fussing about everything. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. If you want your husband to fix something around the house, ask him in a nice way while you are scratching his head.

2. Fix him breakfast and dinner. Cook his favorite meals and create new dishes with his favorite foods.

3. Leave the past in the past. Don’t constantly bring his mistakes, his past mistakes and old flings in the present. Leave the old stuff in the past, let it go.

4. Keep yourself up. Brush your teeth, keep your breath smelling fresh, bathe in perfumes or good smelling soap. Comb your hair and keep it looking good daily. Keep your nails and toes manicured. eyebrows arched, lips and face crust free. If he loves you it doesn't matter if your booty is flat, he still want you to wear those hiphuggers jeans. He knows exactly how you are shaped and he wants you anyway. So get your sexy lingerie on ok. He’s waiting.

5. Listen To Your Man. You may think that what he has to say is silly but this is the part you really need to listen to. Men don’t explain themselves to often so it’s very important to listen he speaks. From that great speech you learn your man and what he wants. Remember that a man is the king of his castle and he wants to be treated that way.


6. Respect Your Man. Many times and most of the times we are usually right. At times in a relationship being right or wrong is second to respect. You should respect your man at all times and sometimes that mean shutting up and not telling him what you really want to.

7. Be nice and respectful to his mother. Mother-in-laws can be a handful but don’t forget she’s still his mother. The Bible says to honor your mother and father. No matter what he says his mother did to him and what she didn't do for him is not your issues. He’s telling your his issues because you are his friend and he should be able to tell you everything. He’s not telling you this to take up a fight with his mother. He will always love her regardless and he’ll never forget anything bad you said about her.

Marriage is a beautiful and all you need is patience but please be careful in your judgement and do not subject yourself to an abusive relationship. He is your man and not a Hitler or a warlord.

Christiano My Son.......My Prince To Come!!!

Christiano my son,
You are the pride of your mother,
You are the honor of Dike,your father,
You are the reason we can walk miles.
Christiano nwam!!! Ugo nnaya!!!
I called you Christiano, Idika nna gi,
He was a player and a lover,
Your father had the keys to a thousand passions.

Christiano my son,
Ezennaya, i carried you with so much pride,
I remember the night we made you,
Our first night together as di na nwunye.
Christiano nwam, Your father did not play chess that night,
The night was long and the bed was soft,
The stars and the moon watched us in envy,the wind blew i fury,
My Ebubedike your father rode with pride like thunder.

Christiano my son,
Otero aka, nauseous mornings took over your mother,
The effect of you did not hide for once,
I began to bloom and bloom and bloom.
Christiano nwam, Ara gbara nna gi,
I suddenly agadi with a flawless young skin,
Your father wouldn't let me do anything at all,
All he wanted was for me to carry you.

Christiano my son,
I looked into your eyes and i saw my lion,
You were a total replica of your father, Agu'm,
With the brightest eyes piercing my soul, Nwoko!
Christiano nwam, you are the symbol of our love so strong,
Today, we welcome you to our world to stay,to live, to tarry,
Your arrival will not only bring love but wealth in abundance,
Nno Ike'm,your father has just named you; Ezekwesili.

Pregnancy is Pregnancy

Have you heard? She's pregnant, two months pregnant. Yes we have, so now what happens to her?
She loses her future and vision.
She drops out of school.
She stays at home day to day.
She is left to die in the cold.
She is stigmatized and victimized.
She says goodbye to all her dreams.
She is robbed of her childhood.
She is set to be among the less privileged.
She is left to care and care for her and the child.
She is 18 looking 40.
She is left to experience pain and distress.
She is faced with early marriage.
She is risking Vesico Vaginal Fistula.
She is sometimes abandoned by the child's father.
She is left with no one but herself and the baby.
She is a baby carrying and caring for another baby.
She is not given the best of health care she needs.
She is not at the ante natal classes.
She is absent from all social events.
She is socially dead because she is pregnant.

Have you seen him? He is responsible for her pregnancy!!! Really, what happens to him now?
He denies her or drops out of school.
He falls into the hall of depression.
He is avoided by the same friends that encouraged him to have sex.
He is forced to do menial jobs to survive.
He has to care for two people.
He is a child providing for children.
He is robbed of his teen hood.
He is forced into crime and violence.
He is a grown man with shattered dreams and visions.
He is cost his future because of one mistake too many.
He is 30 now looking 60.
He is weary because he has struggled all his life.
He is forced to marry even when he's not yet an adult..
He is prone to lose all the opportunities that come by.
He is forced to make decisions that may thwart his own future.


Now i ask a very simple question, Why does a young teenage girl drop out of school because she is pregnant? Is it that they cannot perform well in class as a result of the pregnancy or is it a form of punishment or disciplinary measure. Well, being pregnant is not a wrong thing i must say but the process that leads to pregnancy out of wedlock is. When young people face situations like this, i bet you that pushing them out of the house or rusticating them from school has no message to pass neither will it make them better adults.

This is because more of such cases are still been reported everyday from all over the world and this means that sending them out of school has not provided a platform for the
other young ones to learn lessons from the victims. Most of the time, the young boy involved is not left out especially if he admits to be responsible for the pregnancy. You will agree with me that in this case honesty is not the best policy. Showing these people pity, love and care will go a long way in making life a bit easier for them. Lets look at leaving the boy in school and sending the girl back to school after she had weaned her baby. Being pregnant is not easy and having a child is not easy either,it requires a stable mind but such a teen remain very unstable for a very long period of time. This has lead to insanity, death, hypertension, pre-eclapmsia and other threatening ailments.

Such a teen find it hard to fit in as a young person or an adult later in life, making it impossible for them to participate in the society. We call it teenage pregnancy,unplanned pregnancy,unwanted pregnancy or even bastard pregnancy. Some of these pregnancies are as a result of rape, sexual abuse fro family members etc and they are never reported, documented or addressed. Be it unwanted or not,pregnancy is pregnancy and I look forward to a future where every pregnancy is wanted, where every child is special and human lives are valued more than culture, religion and any faction.

Super Sex And Sex Education

This is a discussion between a mother and daughter!



A Girl asked her mother: What is sex?

Mother replied: Sex is when you stop a car driven by a man who offers you a meal in a restaurant, and then you spend some time with him in the hotel room, sleep with him once, and then each one go on his way and you have a hundred dollars bill extra in your pocket.

Girl; Mum what is super sex?

Mum replies; Super sex is when you stop a limousine driven by Chauffeur and a stylish man is sitting in the back who takes you to a luxurious villa, gives you a sumptuous meal with distinctive Caviar...and then you spend the night together in bed and engage in sex more than once, and then you part with an envelope containing a thousand dollars in your pocket.

And then the girl asks her mother: What is love?

Mother replies: Love is a lie invented by men so that they can have sex with you for FREE!

Now here, this is meant to be a joke because honestly am still wondering the kind of mother that would advice her daughter like this, except Mama G in a Nigerian Movie which usually back fires. Nollywood, i celebrate your team and am proudly Nigeria.

Now am going to be taking on sex education and that is why i had to introduce it in a very funny way anyway. Most Nigerian Parents hide away from this particular topic but the amazing thing about sex is that if you don't talk to your child about it,someone else or something else surely will. As these young minds grow and trust you as a mum or dad,anything and everything you say becomes final which will make it impossible for them to make way for all the trash online. Remember they have friends in school and funny enough you cannot always be there.


Sadly, most Nigerian teenagers and adolescents have grown with this mind set and barely believing there is anything in the world like love.. Love has become what can you give me and no more how much impact can i make in your life. Ask the girl dating the richest man if she is truly happy and let her tell you the story of her life and how much pain she has to bear,how much lies she tells to cover her so called integrity. Money solves a lot of problems in Marriage but doesn't solve ALL problems in Marriage. Its not about the free sex after all you get the same result at the end of the game. The problem is he who knows does not speak and he who speaks does not know...Parents, what are you doing on sex education!!!

Don't tell your teen a condom is socks or your daughter that when a man touches her she will get pregnant. that has drastically produced a higher number of lesbians than any other myth or lie in the world. Teach your child all and what they need to know,teach them to tell you the truth when they are abused as most young people face sexual abuse but don't share their story with anyone. Some even commit suicide and the story follow them to the grave. Make out time to discuss with them and give them a room to share all they are feeling. Let them tell you about their friends, this will help you access when there are danger signals.

Remember, Nobody is free until all are free. HIV and other viral infections are waving flags here and there searching for passengers. Unplanned pregnancy is not ruled out and is a topic for another day as it will make a whole blog of its own. Abortion is spreading large wings and the problem here is not the abortion but the fact that most of them are unsafe leading to infertility,death and chronic infections...Lets Watch it, Parents!

Ten Crazy Marriage Commandments!!!

Yea... lets roll but don't break the slate like the people of Israel did... you know what happened to them; don't you?

1. Marriages are made in heaven.
But so is thunder and lightning.

2.If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention
to every word you say, talk in your sleep. She hears it all.

3.Marriage is a large box of collected efforts --
and divorce maybe the evidence of what you contributed in your own box
if you don't sow the seeds of love..

4.Married life is maybe frustrating if you don't play your wing well.
In the first year of marriage,the man speaks and the woman listens.
In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

5.When some men opens the door of his car for his wife,
you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is
new or the wife is or the door is bad.

6.Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;
The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

7.Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say.
After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.

8.Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding,
economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

9.Marriage and love are purely a matter of chemistry.
That is why one treats the other like the PH neutral value or toxic waste.

10.A man is incomplete until he is married.
After that, he is either made complete or he is finished...!!!

What Is Your Life Purpose?

What is your Life Purpose?

Is it ;



To know God more each passing day of my life...

to live in love, friendship and happiness

to spend money that could change lives

to be the reason many families of the world have food

to solve all your financial problems

to give happiness those you love

to possess a beautiful, big house for yourself

to travel, to take vacations

to start an amusing, absorbing hobby

to start a new business which is very successful

to buy a business which brings in a lot of money

to see those that you love succeed

to make new friends and develop new relationships

to get married and to have a family

to have more control and more optimism in your life

to bring good fortune to those that you love

to discover the ‘true love’ of your life

to marry a rich and influential person

to become someone famous and touch lives

to appear on television and ride the most expensive cars

to see your children get good grades

to have more good luck in your life

to succeed in everything that you undertake

to inspire those who are hopeless to hold on

to command respect that you should earn…


What ever you choose to become,
starts from the mind and what matters most is your ability to 

discover your life purpose and pursue it.
Remember, you only live once,
but if you lived well,Just once is more than enough!

Letter to Future Husband...

Hi Beautiful Fans,
I am actually reblogging this from a friend of mine and that is because i found it very interesting. I read it a couple of times and i am yet to stop giggling. I think because am igbo it will read thus;


Dim Oma,
Its with tears I am writing this to you. I am writing this after series of heartaches and pain. Each time I meet someone, I mistake him for 'YOU'. It seems all sweet at first and then 'POW', the scales fall of my eyes and I realize this can never be YOU!
You'll never leave me broken, NO, you love me too much for that. You see through me and appreciate my shower of love and respect for you.
You won't treat me like those selfish jerks who dish out the very thing they wouldn't take!
Ezigbo dim, I don't know exactly what you look like, but I know that you radiate sweetness, you appreciate the extremely good heart I have which has been stretched, broken and shredded by the people who deceived me into thinking they were YOU!
If only you know Nkem, if only you know how I wish you were here with me now. I wish you could pull me out of this emotional bondage. You do not know how painful it feels to be rejected.
I have faced enough rejection. Enough to last me a life time. It depresses me so much, I start to cry and wonder if it isn't best to remain single. But despite my travail, I still have space to think of you and the joy you'll bring me when I finally meet you.
Life is full of selfish people, I know that for sure. But I know you are not selfish because somewhere in your tiny heart, you are thinking of me too and wondering when I would come.
I know our children would be very beautiful and brilliant (from my genes)but if you are cute and intelligent too, then we'll produce geniuses!
I just want to let you know a few more things about me. I am chubby (a size 14) because I binge when I am sad,though I plan to start working out soon. I am dark, I am not after the bleaching craze, I am extremely loving and romantic, I would gladly spend my last dime just to see you smile as that would make me smile too. I am the most selfless person you would ever know. I don't like arguments, they break me. And I can't keep malice or bear to see us unhappy because of a flimsy quarrel.
I hope you like home cooked meal, because I absolutely love cooking and I hope you start learning how to dote on a woman because I love attention.
I do not ask for much financially, just be comfortable and show me you have prospects and we'll click cos I'm a home builder and I wouldn't mind extra motivation from you.
Let me stop here darling. It's one of those nights, I am broken, my eyes are running, my nose is blocked, my heart is heavy. But I am here, waiting for sleep to come and praying that in my dream tonight, I'll see you and you'll tell me precisely when you are coming.


Your patient wifey....

What Really Matters....

Yes!!! Take it or leave it but Twenty years from now it won’t really matter what shoes you wore today,

How your hair looked, or what brand of jeans and bags you bought.

What will matter is how you loved, what you learned and how you applied this knowledge.

What books you read and all you learnt from all your relationships with people.

What you placed as your values and what you tagged to count important.

Take full responsibility for your goals.

If you really want good things in your life to happen, you have to make them happen yourself.

You can’t sit around and hope that somebody else will help you; you have to make your own future.

Don't think that your destiny is tied to the actions and choices of others.

Know your worth.

When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options.

Kindly help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation.

Give them a reason to see the wisdom in you and default for placing you wrongly.

Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do.

Sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you.

It’s not pride – it’s self-respect.

Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people.

Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life.

Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.

You are the CEO of your life.

NOW AM 20 SOMETHING.....

Now am 20 something,
I know my values and ethics,
I know that time is more precious than all.
Now am 20 something,
I am familiar with technology and the atlas,
I am not a slave to social caricature.

Now am 20 something,
I know what is wrong and right,
I think the most, listen more and talk less.
Now am 20 something,
I watch to learn not just to laugh,
I am responsible for all my actions.

Now am 20 something,
I know my purpose and mission,
I know my calling and vision.
Now am 20 something,
Am reading all i need to grow,
Am studying all i need to blow.

Now am 20 something,
I have twitter, facebook, skype and more,
I have books,brain and i blend.
Now am 20 something
I have the swag to play safe,
I know that wisdom makes the difference..

Now am 20 something,
I need a man not a boy,
I need a woman not a girl.
Now am 20 something,
I respect my parents and look forward to being one,
I honor Karma for all the opportunities to serve.




.

A MAN....A LION, NOT A CAT.

Built with the strongest of all ever known and ever striving to be relevant and in-charge, a man is not like every other usual creature in the fields but was made tall,strong, absorbent and to be in control. A man was built raw,strong and tick from the scratch in the image of the supreme being to be the protector of the realm.
A man is that person that takes charge, that person that protects, provides and promotes, who stays and doesn't run away from his home in times of turmoil or disappears from his responsibilities. A man assimilates, tolerates and even accommodates the most unusual characters and faces the fiercest battles without thinking of the risks involved which may include his life.

A man is that ever flowing fountain of wisdom that says little but does much when is time for action. He is that physical figure that walks hand in hand with the metaphysical forces of knowledge as he is expected to be a mentor and a tutor to transit the knowledge to people around him and many generations to come.  A man that knows nothing always have nothing to offer. A man not only flow with wisdom but radiates with graceful understanding and is the only being with an understanding of time.  He knows that there is time for everything and is not fooling around with things that doesn't count, matter or add value to his in passing life.

A man is that expert with the ability of hiding emotions but will cry helplessly inside, with the special gift of claiming not to care, but deep down he does. He is that Boy that wants a toy gun not a barbie doll but when he is wiser, he wants a real woman and not a toy gun anymore. He gives love to his wife with all he is and is her Romeo all way round. He fights for his love, radiates when he has sex before breakfast then frowns when he is hungry. He can be a soldier,a doctor or into any profession but does not raise his hands on his woman.
Real men know its not about fathering a child but being a daddy and stays up to nurse his kids. He does not think shallow but meditates on every content before making conclusions.

A real man knows that he came from somewhere and stays connected to his source. He doesn't shy away from his roles and duties like the cat but embraces it like a Lion and with fate, faith and honor knowing he is not alone. A lion defends, provides and protects his own and people around him with pride and confidence. A man is one person you can trust but not all men can be termed ''A MAN'',
but in due season every man  should stand up and be a man as A MAN IS A LION,not a cat.....