Sunday, March 3, 2013

Love,Across The Miles .........


Sweetness, can i call you tomorrow? He asked,yes dear,call me tomorrow. Baby i miss you more than words can say. I thought you would be home this Xmas you know. Am so lonely..she said. Yes baby girl,i know. i will visit Africa soon i promise. Just send me the list of all the stuffs you need so i can get them for you when am coming. i promise i won't disappoint this time. he pleaded"OK. She agreed"Its just that i miss u. Its been 3 years. That's a very long time you know. Its not just right and my parents are beginning to get worried. my younger sister is getting married next month and everyone thinks something is wrong with me. She replied. Baby,its fine. I will be with you soon enough, am gonna get you the latest Bentley. Sweetheart,let's make love on the phone. Baby, are u there. I have missed you the whole day could you please tell me something sweet. "He kept teasing" Baby are u there. He asked again". Yes am here. She replied.I guess you are been all emotional. I have to go, i will call you later tonight so i can hear that sexy voice of yours alright. Alright!! She replied. I love you the mother of my unborn kids,he teased..... I love you too she replied and the line went DEAD....


Distance relationship is the prolonged absence of one's partner which brings about a bridge in the normal expected communication. This is said to be one of the highest factors contributing to infidelity,failed and unhappy marriages all over the world. In as much as out of sight may not be out of heart,long distance syndrome dissipates the passion in a relationship if no effort is made for correction or if the absence goes beyond negotiation.

Love across the miles entails both partners living apart as a result of certain circumstances such as a Job,studies,greener pastures or maybe out of compulsion. Distance could be miles,countries away,states,oceans or continents away and increases the chances of infidelity,risky behaviors with anxiety,depression,lack of concentration,loss of trust and fatigue.

Love across the miles is on the increase and we need to monitor and evaluate ourselves if we are in such a relationship since it can be either avoided or neglected; if you don't value that relationship. If you are not willing to move when all the chances has been weighed and the arrow is pointing your direction,then you are wrong!!!

As sad as it may sound nowadays couples successfully love across the miles with the husband across the miles,the wife runs her career like the German machine,with both faced with the chances of cheating,flings or office romance. They have and raise kids with a nanny at their beck who in most cases passes the wrong messages to their young minds. How can a rarely home mum play the role of a father and a mother without getting the kids confused. The everyday "come and talk to daddy" thing is not just enough. He comes home once in a year to spend a week or two which would also be used to visit other extended families. The role and presence of parents play important part in the life of the children. its not by taking them to big schools or vacations abroad.

There is a clear difference between a trip and the absence of a partner. No amount of making up is ever enough.

Parenthood and relationship is a call,don't answer if u are not ready. Marriages and relationships get harder as partners exchange toy gifts,same sex relationship is on rapid increase,yes and we all agree that everything is fine. No! A toy can not replace a human,someone you to love is just irreplaceable. If you want a relationship,forget people,pull out all your emotions,be ready and willing to protect it, its yours.

Distance conceal a lot of things that may be happening, some habits and characters that can keep you living in a fools paradise. You may get into love across the miles and may never wake up to understand the wasted years.

Relationships has gone beyond voice notes,emails and phone calls. Its all hands on deck, let's make it work not walk. you may never know what people in distance relationships go through.you don't wanna know i bet you.

Prepare your minds,start seeing beyond the hidden agendas and start working towards a Godly relationship,start giving in your best,be willing and ready to sacrifice all you can now when you can. Look above the Barrytone voice and showered gifts.

Every good thing comes with time,let love be your religion and not just a word because a divorce is an amputation that leaves a permanent scar, open for all to see.

2 comments:

  1. Well spoken my prayer is that we can actually imbibe d required Discipline to keep a long distance relationship

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