Myths Of March.... Sex During Pregnancy.

Zara,

I am a 33-year old man and I am happily married to the love of my life. We are happy and we share everything, we are also expecting presently and that has multiplied our joy immensely. The problem is that like pregnancy comes with different body and hormonal changes, the shot it gave my wife is a high libido. My wife wants sex every minute. Just looking at me gets her wet and spilling.

But I am afraid that with the way things are now going we could harm the child. She can’t sleep if I don’t make love to her and sometimes she will even start crying in the middle of the night because of this. Am afraid I may disfigure my child in one way or the other by having sex with her. I don’t want her to remain sad during this pregnancy period but I am really scared of harming or killing the unborn child.

What will I do to solve this problem? She is beginning to feel that I am either avoiding her because she is pregnant or having an extra marital affair?

Nnamdi.

Dear Nnamdi,

Pregnancy issues or effects differ from one woman to the other. As such, what happens to one woman may or will never happen to the other. Just like the cravings are different, the body reacts and responds differently to pregnancy.

Your woman is experiencing high libido in pregnancy and you need to be very patient and understanding because she is going through some body changes. Some women feel very repulsive to sex during pregnancy, some are indifferent and some are really active since the vagina keeps secreting fluid while others are banned from sex because the pregnancy is threatening a miscarriage.

Sexual intercourse during pregnancy does not have any effect on the baby and does not affect the woman negatively in any way as long as the pregnancy is not threatened and the woman is in good health condition. As long as your woman is healthy, you can enjoy sexual intercourse with your wife from the first month till the ninth month.

It is actually recommended that men should have sex with their wives during pregnancy as this helps to stimulate the elasticity of the vagina walls and helps make way for the baby during labor. So, shake body and make your woman happy. Some men do not have this same opportunity on your platter. Don't dull.