BROTHER WALE

As i walked into the bathroom that night,i felt this unusual weakness in my limbs.i had a long day at school and came back worn out as a result of the days activities.i rushed the plate of food my mother gave to me and took some water before i laid down to take a short nap.it was about 6.30 pm. i slept and finally woke up at about 10 pm.i needed to shower and read my books for the next days exam.just as i looked out of the bathroom window to the darkness that had taken over the universe except for the street lights that gave bright rays to the vicinity  i noticed some funny movements but i picked up my bathing soap and quietly began to have my bath.suddenly the power went off and i heard 3 gunshots that sent cold shivers down my spine. Even with my soaked body i began to shiver and sweat at the same time.i was so scared. in the bathroom alone with no light and then gunshots.No,this is very unusual i thought and rushed my bath but only then did i hear profuse wails and screams from our neighbor's house,just two poles away from ours. I heard strong knocks on the bathroom door,it was my elder brother Wale. Femi he called,did you hear the gunshots,its from Bayo's house oh.i think he has been kicked.oh boy i am leaving town straight away.i cant stand this seriously.No chances oh.Wale said and his voice disappeared.I slumped in the bathroom floor.
Wale visited the scene of the murder and Bayo was shot in the head and chest.he died on the spot.we learnt he came home after his exams and went to bed like we all did after a long day,but at the time he was shot he received a call from someone asking him to come downstairs for a message and before he made his way down stairs they were already at the door.they shot him and left immediately.He was the only son of his parents.His father was very rich and affluent,we all grew up together,attended the same primary and secondary school and now in the university we all went to school in his car,Wale and myself. I thought of his loss and how terrible his mum must be feeling right now,i could hear her wails from my room.i could feel the sudden calm and cold dark night,i could only hear her voice in the depth of the night. Bayo was gone, unbelievable. I thought of Ruky his girlfriend his solemn reason for going into a cult.she must be sleeping now maybe in another man's bed without knowing that Bayo was heading to the mortuary.i was restless,i was so scared.my mum came and knocked at my door to tell me that she was going down to know if truly that Bayo was dead.i cant remember what my response was. i was lost in thought.i flashed back to that faithful day we were at the library that Ruky walked in and Bayo lost his mind to the level that he has lost his life this very night. Ruky was dating a cult guy and Bayo stepping into her life was not helping matters. the trauma he was put through because of her was more than enough.He could not cope with the frustration instilled on him by Sharp and his men so he joined a cult which was the beginning of another life for him.he lived in fear,confusion and trembling.i actually saw that as a weird life living fear of gun men,why would i ever do that,not for anything or anyone in the world.
Cultism has left indelible marks on the lives of a lot of people,parents have lost their children,people have lost their brothers,sometimes sisters and other loved one. Alot of under graduates dropped out of school out of fear of dying shamelessly,parents sell their properties to send their children to school only to welcome back some bad news that strikes their hearts with bile.Why should you venture into something that will pay you nothing but subject you to trauma,loss and restlessness. You are a youth for you to be useful not for you to be mourned for. Be in the right charge of your life,Be a good boss to yourself then know what counts and what doesn't. Of course,every choice you make,shapes your life!
Bayo was buried the next day but now my question is; where is Wale my elder brother? could he have sold his soul the devil like Bayo did and chosen to live in total fear of death? Where is Brother Wale ehhhh?

SAY NO TO CULTISM!!!!!!!!!

CRUXIFIED

Today happens to be the very best day of my life...i have my peace,my joy,my inner peace and lasting happiness is here to stay. i no longer know nothing,now i know everything.my babies are laying in their cots,healthy and happy. they cant even imagine what am going through but i watched as my mother nursed and watched over them with so much love and tenderness. How sweet and selfless is the love of a mother. Grandmothers are special,no wonder my friend use to tell me that grandmothers are the only ones who treated us like we were all that really mattered. As she watched them,i saw the love in her eyes. Blossom and Bounty were all that mattered now,all others were irrelevant. Grand children mean so much to our parents yo know.
I was born with what i call the wooden spoon,you may never understand.but be it obeche,iroko,mousonia or mohagany,a wood can never survive the fire.it may take some time for some wood but it eventually burns.i was the 3rd of seven children and 2nd daughter. my father lived,breath,swam and jobbed on alchohol.he was a welder while my mother had a shop in front of our neigbourhood.she was known as mama Emeka but due to lack of finances.Emeka was sent to learn a trade in the big city of onitsha when he was 12 while my sister Nnenna was sent to Enugu city to live with some woman we never met. I Nneka,Ifeanyi,Amechi,Obum and Azuka were with our parents. feeding was such a luxry how much more clothing and other extras. we all remained in the village until i was also sent to leave with another woman.i remember how cruel our father could be to us and our mother,how he use to come home dead drunk harassing everybody and blaming our mother for his poverty. how he had a motocycle before they got married and now he has nothing. All of us would burst into tears and cry the whole night.Our hypertensive mother will fall ill for days and we would all pray he would just die in his snoring sleep. sure,the role of your father remains significant in your life even if he was absent from it.we all grew up and after some years,Emeka was sent home for stealing his masters money,just a year to his settlement. He actually sent that money to us one of the times our mother was in the hospital.he came home a changed man,smoking drinking and loafing about. Nnenna was sent home pregnant.....she said she was raped by her aunty's husband.it was war when she came back and in an attempt to hide the truth,she went for an abortion and died. my mother went out of reach as we battled for her life too. in a clash of fury Emeka pushed our father and he slumped to death. we had two corpses to bury in one day.
Now i was sent to the city this time to live with a distant cousin,i was nearly killed and defiled but i actually survived all the home misdemeanors until i got to school and met Ebere.we met during a youth program organised by the local government in my school.''SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX''.she kept on arguing all the speakers where saying and i admired her courage.so somehow we became friends and soon we were birds of the same feathers. she would take me to visit some of her male friends and we would drink to forget the ill treatments i faced at home. And it was there i met and fell in love with Okey,he told me all the beautiful things i have never heard before.he would give me 200naira when am going back home.he would call me Nne'm,my only Nne.i was so happy and knew the joy that sprang up from the inside,deep down the root of love.i would read his letters a thousand times in the middle of the night and missed school some days just to spend some time with him. i felt like i was in heaven.the flowers,letters,my broken cherry and the money i felt was like millions really made my day but not until i travelled home for christmas and what i feared most came upon me.just like my sister,I WAS PREGNANT...my mother was the first to notice and wailed down our neigbourhood. Emeka beat me up until i lost conciousness.just before i could say Nne,i was traditionally married off to okey at 15 and the truth began to unfold.he was an apprentice just like my elder brother Emeka.i got the shock of my life.the house he was always taking me to was his friend's house.infact,he was living with his master,in the boys quarter.then like a tree,my pain grew with each passing day.he would beat me to pulp,till i bleed.he would starve me and lock me out of the house under the rain for days,he denied me access to health care and all forms of comfort.As days grew into months i was left with just a blouse and wrapperas none of my clothes were still my size.I had no means of communication,no friends,no external interaction.Nothing.Labour pains were unbearable as it was one of the days he never came home but thank God for his rest and peace that money cannot buy.i was delivered of a set of twins,a boy and girl that came with so much happiness. I named them Blossom and Bounty.my legcy,my only foot prints.I had them,i slept and never woke up.my mother was so heartbroken but now she is here and my kids will be fine.
Today is my funeral,i have found lasting peace in the arms of my creator.my children are safe with my mother as much as am safe with God,hoping that everything pain i felt has been erased as i may have lived a bad life not well celebrated but i have had two generations with a chance of correction.
Most definitely,premarital sex sure has a glaring way of terminating your future and stopping your growth.it has nothing to do with government,it begins with the family,the religious houses,the school,the social medias,the kind of friends you cling to and of course most importantly,it begins with you.You are in charge of your life forever and every choice you make shapes your life in all areas.
Good night and i hope you learnt a thing or two from my story...............




say no to unprotected premarital sex,
child abuse,sexual abuse,teenage unplanned pregnancy,
unsafe abortion and all risky behaviours.

Seven Things You Need To Know About Condoms

A condom is a barrier device commonly used during sexual intercourse to reduce the probability of pregnancy and spreading sexually transmitted diseases. It is put on a man's erect penis or a woman's uterus and physically blocks ejaculated semen from entering the body of a sexual partner. Condoms are also used for collection of semen for use in infertility treatment. 

As a method of birth control, male condoms have the advantage of being inexpensive, easy to use, having few side effects, and offering protection against sexually transmitted diseases. The condom has been one of the most popular methods of contraception in the world. While widely accepted in modern times and massively consumed but here are some basic facts you never knew about condoms;

1. Condoms have been around since 1000 B.C. 

Evidence of condom use among Egyptians stretches back as far back as 1000 B.C. Then, in the 18th century, condoms began being manufactured out of animal intestines. In the 19th century, rubber became the material of choice for rubbers, and the 20th century ushered in the age of latex. Some folks still use lambskin condoms, and swear by their extra sensitivity. However, for anyone who was in a fraternity, that probably hits a little too close to home.

2. Some condoms are bigger than others.

The world's largest "condom" was a 127-foot-tall hot-air balloon version of a rubber unleashed during a Dutch safe-sex festival. The world's largest condom that a man who is probably not being entirely honest would actually put on his penis is the Durex XXL, which, at 9.5 inches, recently passed the Magnum XL for overall size supremacy and of course female condoms are larger and longer than the male. the males also has the kings size so you see,they are folks that are really large down there in case you want to try but they are not horses though.

3. Wearing two condoms doesn't work.

Wearing two condoms doesn't just increase friction,but decreases the lubrication of the vagina,causing dryness,wear and tear which can result to breakage or bursting of both condoms. Now let me ask,do you use two umbrellas no matter the magnitude of the rain,that's a big NO. Just as you don't fix two class cups together to take water because you are so thirsty.

4. Vaseline and Condoms are a big fat DONT 

Condoms and Vaseline seem like using a black powder on a light skin,it's powder but not the correct result. In fact, Vaseline, or any oil-based lubricant, will act to disintegrate most condoms. You can use water base lubricates but be it vaseline,oil or groundnut oil increases wear and may result to leakage or breakage. That's as good as having a skin to skin you know. No result!

5. Condoms are like Etisalat (you choose)

Like seriously,it doesn't matter if you bought a condom for a million dollar,they all do the same thing. If one is sold for a thousand and the other a hundred,it doesn't make it any better.once it's not expired and you got it from a good shop or pharmacy.condoms come in different sizes,colors,fragrances and designs too including the female condoms which are widely making waves in our present society for the ladies, so you choose and color your world.

6. Condoms has its basic code of conducts

Recently, a couple of issues just came up on condoms as not been 100% effective.  Remember that only abstinence is reliable as every other contraceptive involves crossing a few 'T's and dotting some 'I's. that is why we advice,"correct and consistent" use of condom. so anytime you meet an unplanned bun in the oven,it means it may have been an expired condom or possibly you did it wrong.

7. Condoms are the only Dual protection.

Sure it's dual because it does two different things at the same time it also protects against STDs  as well as the dreaded HIV and also plays an important role in preventing pregnancy. That is why it's safer than the pills, IUD devices and other natural methods of family planning except you want something more permanent,if you know what I mean.

Now when next you consider sexual intercourse,
would you rather consider a dual protection 
that is less than 100% effective or would you
be sure to hold on to yourself and practice 100% abstinence.

Use your head and think ahead.