Myths Of March... Wet Dreams

Hello zara,

I am a 17-year old boy in SS3. I have never had sex and my friends are really pressuring me about it. I have a girlfriend and we have never discussed sex, maybe because of the morals I grew up with. But I just don’t like to discuss it.

Just last week my friends were at it again and this time they said if I don’t have sex that the sperm will overfill inside my body then I will start vomiting semen from my mouth and I will die. How true is this? I have been having constant wet dreams since then, so I am really scared. I don’t want to die and I'm already thinking of asking my girlfriend for sex.

I love her, but not sexually considering our age and class. I don’t want her to get pregnant. I can’t be a father now. My parents will kill me. What will I do? should I ask my girlfriend?

Stan

Dear Stan,

Wet dreams are very natural with boys your age, as the phenomenon is a part of the growth and development of male sexuality during puberty. You have no need to worry about having wet dreams. Also, abstinence from sex will not kill you. In fact, it saves you from early fatherhood, involvement with unsafe abortion, chances of contracting HIV and other sexually transmitted infections, and also dropping out of school. You will not die from abstaining, and you won’t vomit semen either.

You can also need to trust this service for confidentiality and remain focused in the forthcoming exams as there is still a lot of time for you to have sex but when that time come. If you do choose not to abstain, always remember to use a condom correctly and consistently. Feel free to get in touch with me privately if you have more questions that require confidentiality.

Regards,

Zara.