Dear Zara,With pain in my bones and fear in my heart I write you this. I actually chose to ignore this problem for years but right now it stares me in the face. I am 31, married and hoping to dad a baby soon. But there is this problem I have been having since my wife and I got married. I have premature ejaculation and it’s not a funny one because sometimes I can even release during foreplay. This makes me really sad although my wife has not shown any signs of worry. I know that very soon it may become an issue. I can’t stop thinking about this and I know I wasn’t like this before. What can I do to stop this and is there any drug for me to take to improve.Male. Asaba, 31.
Zara responds:
Hello friend,
I understand how you feel and I respect your decision to seek help. However you need to rewind back to how and when this started, considering the fact that you said you weren’t like this. What happened?
- Did you get or treat an STI?
- Did you go on a prolonged sex enhancer?
- Did you undergo any surgery?
- Did you gain or lose rapid weight?
- Did you leave any infection untreated?
Although the cause of this dysfunction is unknown, it is usually associated with effects from the above listed health issues. It can also be hereditary and can occur regularly when you have a new partner. If your answer to all these questions is a NO, then all you need to do is calm your nerves, discuss with your partner on how best to satisfy her sexually and probably seek medical help.
For home remedies, you can practice Kegal exercise, the start and stop movement during intercourse and the use of condoms as this reduces sensation on the penis. You can practice relaxation/mediation and quit taking alcohol for some time. Smoking any substance is not good for you at the moment. You can also eat healthy by taking a lot of vegetables and fruits especially watermelon which has a Viagra effect.
Premature ejaculation can also be a thing of the mind, so it will be great for you to avoid being anxious or excited so you can be able to divert your mind and control your climax during intercourse.
Thanks,
Zara.
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