Loving The Bad Guy Turn Good

1. Stop nagging and fussing about everything. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. If you want your husband to fix something around the house, ask him in a nice way while you are scratching his head.

2. Fix him breakfast and dinner. Cook his favorite meals and create new dishes with his favorite foods.

3. Leave the past in the past. Don’t constantly bring his mistakes, his past mistakes and old flings in the present. Leave the old stuff in the past, let it go.

4. Keep yourself up. Brush your teeth, keep your breath smelling fresh, bathe in perfumes or good smelling soap. Comb your hair and keep it looking good daily. Keep your nails and toes manicured. eyebrows arched, lips and face crust free. If he loves you it doesn't matter if your booty is flat, he still want you to wear those hiphuggers jeans. He knows exactly how you are shaped and he wants you anyway. So get your sexy lingerie on ok. He’s waiting.

5. Listen To Your Man. You may think that what he has to say is silly but this is the part you really need to listen to. Men don’t explain themselves to often so it’s very important to listen he speaks. From that great speech you learn your man and what he wants. Remember that a man is the king of his castle and he wants to be treated that way.


6. Respect Your Man. Many times and most of the times we are usually right. At times in a relationship being right or wrong is second to respect. You should respect your man at all times and sometimes that mean shutting up and not telling him what you really want to.

7. Be nice and respectful to his mother. Mother-in-laws can be a handful but don’t forget she’s still his mother. The Bible says to honor your mother and father. No matter what he says his mother did to him and what she didn't do for him is not your issues. He’s telling your his issues because you are his friend and he should be able to tell you everything. He’s not telling you this to take up a fight with his mother. He will always love her regardless and he’ll never forget anything bad you said about her.

Marriage is a beautiful and all you need is patience but please be careful in your judgement and do not subject yourself to an abusive relationship. He is your man and not a Hitler or a warlord.

Christiano My Son.......My Prince To Come!!!

Christiano my son,
You are the pride of your mother,
You are the honor of Dike,your father,
You are the reason we can walk miles.
Christiano nwam!!! Ugo nnaya!!!
I called you Christiano, Idika nna gi,
He was a player and a lover,
Your father had the keys to a thousand passions.

Christiano my son,
Ezennaya, i carried you with so much pride,
I remember the night we made you,
Our first night together as di na nwunye.
Christiano nwam, Your father did not play chess that night,
The night was long and the bed was soft,
The stars and the moon watched us in envy,the wind blew i fury,
My Ebubedike your father rode with pride like thunder.

Christiano my son,
Otero aka, nauseous mornings took over your mother,
The effect of you did not hide for once,
I began to bloom and bloom and bloom.
Christiano nwam, Ara gbara nna gi,
I suddenly agadi with a flawless young skin,
Your father wouldn't let me do anything at all,
All he wanted was for me to carry you.

Christiano my son,
I looked into your eyes and i saw my lion,
You were a total replica of your father, Agu'm,
With the brightest eyes piercing my soul, Nwoko!
Christiano nwam, you are the symbol of our love so strong,
Today, we welcome you to our world to stay,to live, to tarry,
Your arrival will not only bring love but wealth in abundance,
Nno Ike'm,your father has just named you; Ezekwesili.

Pregnancy is Pregnancy

Have you heard? She's pregnant, two months pregnant. Yes we have, so now what happens to her?
She loses her future and vision.
She drops out of school.
She stays at home day to day.
She is left to die in the cold.
She is stigmatized and victimized.
She says goodbye to all her dreams.
She is robbed of her childhood.
She is set to be among the less privileged.
She is left to care and care for her and the child.
She is 18 looking 40.
She is left to experience pain and distress.
She is faced with early marriage.
She is risking Vesico Vaginal Fistula.
She is sometimes abandoned by the child's father.
She is left with no one but herself and the baby.
She is a baby carrying and caring for another baby.
She is not given the best of health care she needs.
She is not at the ante natal classes.
She is absent from all social events.
She is socially dead because she is pregnant.

Have you seen him? He is responsible for her pregnancy!!! Really, what happens to him now?
He denies her or drops out of school.
He falls into the hall of depression.
He is avoided by the same friends that encouraged him to have sex.
He is forced to do menial jobs to survive.
He has to care for two people.
He is a child providing for children.
He is robbed of his teen hood.
He is forced into crime and violence.
He is a grown man with shattered dreams and visions.
He is cost his future because of one mistake too many.
He is 30 now looking 60.
He is weary because he has struggled all his life.
He is forced to marry even when he's not yet an adult..
He is prone to lose all the opportunities that come by.
He is forced to make decisions that may thwart his own future.


Now i ask a very simple question, Why does a young teenage girl drop out of school because she is pregnant? Is it that they cannot perform well in class as a result of the pregnancy or is it a form of punishment or disciplinary measure. Well, being pregnant is not a wrong thing i must say but the process that leads to pregnancy out of wedlock is. When young people face situations like this, i bet you that pushing them out of the house or rusticating them from school has no message to pass neither will it make them better adults.

This is because more of such cases are still been reported everyday from all over the world and this means that sending them out of school has not provided a platform for the
other young ones to learn lessons from the victims. Most of the time, the young boy involved is not left out especially if he admits to be responsible for the pregnancy. You will agree with me that in this case honesty is not the best policy. Showing these people pity, love and care will go a long way in making life a bit easier for them. Lets look at leaving the boy in school and sending the girl back to school after she had weaned her baby. Being pregnant is not easy and having a child is not easy either,it requires a stable mind but such a teen remain very unstable for a very long period of time. This has lead to insanity, death, hypertension, pre-eclapmsia and other threatening ailments.

Such a teen find it hard to fit in as a young person or an adult later in life, making it impossible for them to participate in the society. We call it teenage pregnancy,unplanned pregnancy,unwanted pregnancy or even bastard pregnancy. Some of these pregnancies are as a result of rape, sexual abuse fro family members etc and they are never reported, documented or addressed. Be it unwanted or not,pregnancy is pregnancy and I look forward to a future where every pregnancy is wanted, where every child is special and human lives are valued more than culture, religion and any faction.