Pregnancy is Pregnancy

Have you heard? She's pregnant, two months pregnant. Yes we have, so now what happens to her?
She loses her future and vision.
She drops out of school.
She stays at home day to day.
She is left to die in the cold.
She is stigmatized and victimized.
She says goodbye to all her dreams.
She is robbed of her childhood.
She is set to be among the less privileged.
She is left to care and care for her and the child.
She is 18 looking 40.
She is left to experience pain and distress.
She is faced with early marriage.
She is risking Vesico Vaginal Fistula.
She is sometimes abandoned by the child's father.
She is left with no one but herself and the baby.
She is a baby carrying and caring for another baby.
She is not given the best of health care she needs.
She is not at the ante natal classes.
She is absent from all social events.
She is socially dead because she is pregnant.

Have you seen him? He is responsible for her pregnancy!!! Really, what happens to him now?
He denies her or drops out of school.
He falls into the hall of depression.
He is avoided by the same friends that encouraged him to have sex.
He is forced to do menial jobs to survive.
He has to care for two people.
He is a child providing for children.
He is robbed of his teen hood.
He is forced into crime and violence.
He is a grown man with shattered dreams and visions.
He is cost his future because of one mistake too many.
He is 30 now looking 60.
He is weary because he has struggled all his life.
He is forced to marry even when he's not yet an adult..
He is prone to lose all the opportunities that come by.
He is forced to make decisions that may thwart his own future.


Now i ask a very simple question, Why does a young teenage girl drop out of school because she is pregnant? Is it that they cannot perform well in class as a result of the pregnancy or is it a form of punishment or disciplinary measure. Well, being pregnant is not a wrong thing i must say but the process that leads to pregnancy out of wedlock is. When young people face situations like this, i bet you that pushing them out of the house or rusticating them from school has no message to pass neither will it make them better adults.

This is because more of such cases are still been reported everyday from all over the world and this means that sending them out of school has not provided a platform for the
other young ones to learn lessons from the victims. Most of the time, the young boy involved is not left out especially if he admits to be responsible for the pregnancy. You will agree with me that in this case honesty is not the best policy. Showing these people pity, love and care will go a long way in making life a bit easier for them. Lets look at leaving the boy in school and sending the girl back to school after she had weaned her baby. Being pregnant is not easy and having a child is not easy either,it requires a stable mind but such a teen remain very unstable for a very long period of time. This has lead to insanity, death, hypertension, pre-eclapmsia and other threatening ailments.

Such a teen find it hard to fit in as a young person or an adult later in life, making it impossible for them to participate in the society. We call it teenage pregnancy,unplanned pregnancy,unwanted pregnancy or even bastard pregnancy. Some of these pregnancies are as a result of rape, sexual abuse fro family members etc and they are never reported, documented or addressed. Be it unwanted or not,pregnancy is pregnancy and I look forward to a future where every pregnancy is wanted, where every child is special and human lives are valued more than culture, religion and any faction.