WOMAN!!!! BEFORE YOU MARRY

The dream of every sane woman is to sit on a white horse beside her charming prince from a foreign land on a beautiful trip of marriage with enough luxury and comfort that will make everyone around her envious. She wants an engagement party on a beach,a bridal shower in Paris,a wedding party at the Barbados,honeymoon in the best Kenyan Resort,if not a one month world tour.
However, soon after the dotted lines are signed,the honeymoon is over and the wedding gown sits on a hanger or maybe the bottom of her box, they tend to realize that marriage is far from the bed of roses they thought it would be. For many, it is a ride to hell,while to others its just a slow,sweet,solemn journey that deserves nothing else but the very best of commitment and understanding.
In spite of the challenges associated with getting married, there are a few wisdom nuggets every spinster should have at the back of her mind before saying ‘I do’. They will help moderate your expectations and give a guide on how to wriggle out of sticky situations that may want to blow ur mind out of the normal.

1. GET INTO THE FIELD.
A lot of women are stuck in bad marriages simply because they do not have a valid way to support themselves or their children should they walk away or seek a divorce.

Get an education if you can or learn a trade and pursue a career that interests and challenges you. Know how to handle your finances, earn money on your own terms and only accumulate as little debt as you can realistically handle. you sure don't need to buy all the designer dresses,hair,bags and shoes then walk down the street looking like a sexy debtor,with no source of income. Don’t expect your parents or partners to bail you out of financial trouble. Learn to be your own financial hero. if you always buy things you don't need,soon you may have to sell the things you need to buy the things you want. Remember you should be a plan ''B'' in case your partner falls ill,loses his job or something bad happens, You need to be able to financially stand on your two feet as supportive wife.

2. READY 'STEADY' COOK.
That old saying which goes ‘the road to a man’s heart is through his stomach’ is absolutely true.
A man is one person that sees love,care and attention in the quality of food you serve him,not because food is all he desires,but as a result of the fact that a good plate of food makes a difference in the life of a tired,hungry man.you don't learn how to cook by been the best customer of any eatery. you cant learn how to cook if you don't cook constantly as you can always correct your past mistake in the next one.there is no quarrel a hot plate of pounded yam and oha soup or any food that pleases his heart,cannot settle,once you put your heart to it. Therefore,If you are not such a great cook, you can learn by going to a cookery school or getting a trusted friend to teach you.

3. KNOW WHEN TO KEEP QUIET.
Nobody in the world wins every battle especially when you are right and he’s wrong. Sometimes, he might just want to be stubborn or maybe he had a rough day at work and he wants to use that opportunity to transfer aggression or prove ‘he is a man. Let it go! there is no man that likes to argue blindly with his woman,like seriously. sometimes keeping quiet puts him on the edge to even ask if you are fine.you don't need to argue,to get angry and exhausted,to hit your palm on the table or even yell at him for you to win an argument. Remember,you may win the argument and lose that man. The solution to some of the challenges we experience are in simply staying calm and letting go.

4. WHO IS YOUR MENTOR?
Albert Einstein said that If you cant explain it to a 5 year old,then you don't know it well enough. there is nobody in the world that doesn't know somebody as we all need advice every now and then. That is why everybody needs a mentor. She does not have to be your pastor or your boss at work as even your Pastor looks up to someone, somewhere. She could just be a woman who is older and more experienced than you and has an evidently great and successful marriage. you cant possibly expect a good advice from a divorced bitter woman that will tell you that all men are the same.

Your mentor is someone who you can count on not to lead you astray. But always remember to think through whatever advice you are given; if it does not match the teachings in the right moral and spritiual norms,please run for your life. A wounded dog is indeed better than a dead lion

Finally read books,not just any book but good books that teach you more than you already know. They will expand your mind and build up your self esteem,driving you through a better view of every aspect of life in general. A home without books is like a soul without a body.
The book is to the mind what the sword is to the wet stone.