MAN....BEFORE YOU MARRY

A man is the most important part of marriage because he is the one that actually starts the process but the woman is as important as a man in the walls of marriage,but before you
marry;

1) YOU NEED TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE:
A man without a purpose is a man without a future,so you must be able to discover your purpose as a man. Now, as a man, what do you want to do or be in life. where are you going because if you don't know where you are going, every road you find yourself will definitely still lead you to no where. Be it a dream, a driving force a skill you need to learn or possibly a lesson well learnt,we all have a purpose on earth.
As a man, you must have a vision or else you have no hope. You must discover your purpose and pursue it with all the courage and might that dwells in you. If you have no Purpose then you cant protect a family as you may not be able to take care of one even if you are given one. You have a purpose, GO find it.

2) YOU DEFINITELY NEED A JOB:
A job is something i define as a platform that provides you a source of income while you fulfill your life purpose. A job creates an avenue for a man to have a genuine source of income and become a more responsible. yes the job could be a trade, a business, a skill or white collar job.A job gets you busy and focused and also tends to increase the respect you can get from women generally. these days education is not enough,a skill is an added advantage and actually needs to be considered. business skills inclusive. As a man you need to move with the world,get computer literate,familiarize with technology and move forward.

3) YOU MUST HAVE UNDERSTOOD WHAT IS IMPORTANT IN LIFE AND WHAT IS NOT:
Yes....i know this very point will raise controversy but the truth be told. Fidus fiddled while Rome burnt. A lot of young men out there are yet to understand the difference between Big Brother Africa and CNN, a book and a porn magazine,a seminar and a night club. Remember you are not getting any younger and you definitely need to start doing things right. Drop all those habits that has never fetched you something.learn some house chores too,it wont kill you to cook,clean and be prepared to assist the woman God will bless you with,both in the home,kitchen, bedroom and all the way round.Just become more home oriented.Put away childish things and prepare yourself to be a husband not a frog tasting waters.One bad effect of keeping many relationships is that you will always end up comparing and wondering which of the ladies is better and you will always find reasons to change your menu because you are unstable,so take a bold step. You are a lion not a cat.

4) YOU NEED A MENTOR NOT A GODFATHER:
This is not a political ground so you need more of a mentor than a godfather. A mentor is a person whose mistakes serves as your stepping stone for you to act better and produce a better result in your marriage but a god father is someone who lacks the ability to understand the difference between a servant and a friend and that is not what you need in your life. A mentor must not be your Pastor but a man whose marriage has gone through thick and thin but was not shaken,a happily married responsible man whose disposition is applauding.A mentor is a reader and a leader who encourages and admonishes when you do things wrong.
A snake begets a snake and same with a Lion,so what are you? A Snake or A Lion!

Just before you think i have forgotten,your relationship with God is very important since you will be leading a home and as such you need all the wisdom you can lay your hands on. If you think the journey will be easy then you may encounter the amputation of divorce and your life may never remain the same. Who prepares a war without been equipped so you need to Pray,meditate,Listen to God,acquire wisdom,read books,attend seminars,training's and also invest your money wisely.What you see is what you get and who you are will attract the partner you deserve.
Remember,The man you are today designs the children you raise tomorrow.